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Frustr8d1's picture

I heard some lyrics the other day and can't stop thinking how sad. 7 yrs ago, I started this journey through step-hell pain. At first, I had no idea the pain I was walking in to. I'm so sad that I've been walking thousands of miles, only to find out I went the wrong way.

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Frustr8d1's picture

Ha. Thanks--and I've been walking this journey with plantar fasciitis on top of that. I never had this before meeting DH & SD. I can't help wonder if the emotional burden is what caused it lol

thinkthrice's picture

Me too! All three skids have completely PASed out--radio silence for almost five years now, but that has left Chef a bitter, angry alcoholic.

The financial burden of him supporting the BM and skids with CS (aka their FUN money) whilst I pinch pennies at every turn (and he makes fun of me and even gets angry at me for doing so) is brutal.

They're always posting photos of taking expensive trips and outings and laughing it up. Meanwhile, Chef acts like a miserable drill sergeant at home.

Disneyfan's picture

Turn around and walk the other way. :?

No one has to stay in a situation that they aren't happy in. We have the power to control our lives. Why hand that power over to people who do not give a damn about you?

thinkthrice's picture

The only way I could get out of my situation is:

1. Chef goes to prison for a very long time (less desirable--he's done some things to my property without my consent that I could be "ratted on for")

2. Chef drops dead

Disneyfan's picture

3. You could put him out.

4. Stop letting him use your money to do things you don't agree with.

Didn't you have an exit plan in place?

thinkthrice's picture

3. Once again, if I put him out he would have absolutely NO qualms about coming back, busting out the door/window and slitting my throat. He has "nothing to live for" as he puts it as his kids have PASed out AND he's not afraid of jail/prison. We just had a case recently where a woman with an RO in this county was killed. Her ex came back and no amount of paperwork would keep that from happening. This is also New York where protecting yourself with a firearm is heavily frowned upon. Chef is ex-military and knows how to kill someone in a very short period of time and he has a rifle.

At the very least he would rat on me about the things he has done to my property, causing me to get in hot water with a gov't authority.

4. see #3 Seriously? He's a violent alkie. I just try and stay out of his way.

The ultimate bait and switch. He was nicer than pie before he moved in.

My exit plan would involve me losing my house. Not gonna do it. I'll be damned if I take another financial bath for a man.

Chef is manageable. He has his good days but if I show the slightest signs of being "discontent" with this arrangement, he will stew for days then blow his top under the influence.

Disneyfan's picture

THIS

There's no way I'd allow that jerk to have access to my money to hand over to his children and exwife. Whatever he did to the house would have been destroyed long ago.

Quintessa24's picture

Cant believe Im saying this but I would be thinking about helping him into an early grave coz hun if it comes down to you or him then to me you have a right to protect your own life instead of waiting for a ticking time bomb.
Slip lots of extra fat and sugar into all his food buy extra strong alcohol and top up his drinks with it every chance you get (hopefully he will pass out quick or get alcohol poisoning. Slip him Viagra because to much can cause a heart attack and its not unusual for men to take an extra pill thinking it will make them even better.
Hopefully all that stuff will give him a heart attack.
You don't have to kill him but no harm putting that banana skin in front of him and the grave

MamaFox's picture

And if she does it like this (not saying she will, She is smarter than that), you will now be an accessory to murder. Dont be stupid.

Lady you need to call DHS, a battered woman's hotline, or flat out just call the damn COPS when he is being a drunk ass.

Really this is...like..UHG Being an Adult Woman 101! Call the fucking COPS and have him removed from your house! While he is being put in the cop car insist you want to press charges and want an emergency protective order! They practically give those things out like candy!

Disneyfan's picture

????? :? :? :?

Why risk going to jail when you can just unplug the ATM and walk away?