so I was beginning to feel like the horrible step monster for getting uptight and angry just at the thot of my ungrateful skids coming to visit again, my story is long but will try and cut to the chase, my husband is a kind loving person and the love of my life, he has been abused by ex wife, ex girlfriends and family over the years which left him missing his spine, I am complete opposite, have very little tolerance for BS, he has a ex wife and 3 kids, the ex still believes she can speak to him however she wants to and demand things, if he doesn't do what she says then hes a bad dad etc. they had joint custody and he had them every other day, this was before my time, not sure I could have survived that.. anyhow, he was paying 150 child support, medical insurance, and half of everything else they wanted or needed, ex moved them out of state without court permission, so she is in contempt, we got them for 5 weeks in the summer, and that's only if she didn't change her mind about the situation, so one day we get an email with figures regarding child support stating this is how much you need to pay, you can start now.. so that was the straw that broke the camels back, we hired a lawyer, we were not just gonna be bullied any more, so now 10000$ and a year later we are stilling dealing with this, she has slung sooo much dirt, most fabricated but since we don't speak to her she get her info from the kids, 17,15,12. I always thot I had a decent relationship with them but things that were said in the modification could have only come from them,, granted ex could have twisted but anyway, these kids are spoiled, lazy, fat and disrespectful, but I am always catering to them, mh doesn't seem to know how to deal with them anymore, they were out of state for 3 yrs and now have moved back, we got no notice of them coming none of the kids said word one. we still after 3 weeks of them being here haven't gotten any demographics, we were required to give 30 days ahead of our move notice to someone who not longer even lived in the state..everytime we turn around we are getting a message about how we didn't do this or that and how it hurts the kids, but yet we didn't get a ty for Christmas, or other high dollar items we have purchased for them, we don't get replys on messages sent to them, we are always the bad guys, anyway seem just like one thing after another with this situation and I am fed up. I could go on and on cause there is way more, but I want to step back let him see his kids but I don't feel I should have to be always involved or taking care of them,, I have never disrespected them and will do my best to be decent to them but I could care less if they come to visit and wish they would have not moved back to the state.. these are his world not mine, and no I didn't sign up for the whole package as some will say