Lazy and manupluative bio-mom?
So my boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. He has two kids with his ex-wife. When we first got together, he cheated on me with her and was going to go back to her because 'even though she cheated in him, life was easier and it was better for kids.' Somehow I got him to stay and as far as I know, they have not slept together since. However, she has always been very manipulative ( get him to take kids as much as possible because he doesn't pay standard child support,) even though that's what they both agreed on... Within the last few months she has become very needy, attention seeking and ridiculous. She has always constantly texting him to complain about life... Even though we try to set boundaries, she always breaks them and my boyfriend is not persistent with making her follow them. Recently, she has started telling him how horrible her current husband is and all her life problems. I don't think she is trying to get him back, she just wants attention. What has really gotten me though, is in the last month she has started texting me on a daily basis to tell me her problems and sob story. In addition, she claims that she is always sick and needs to go to the hospital. Then when the kids are picked up, she NEVER goes. Obviously, having a full time job, I can't leave whenever she calls. My most recent issue is this morning, she asked me to start taking the kids to school. The kids stay overnight at her house and she lives three houses down from their school....she wants me to come to her house, get them ready and then take them to school.... All so she can sleep in. I said no, obviously. It is just so ridiculous... I do try to help every once in a while by letting them come over if it is not our day but then the next minute she is wanting me to start having them over night or taking them to school. At this point, I cannot get my bf to set boundaries because he won't (already tried that) .. And I've resorted to blocking her number so that she does not bug me at work. I mean, at this point, she is the deal breaker for this relationship. Apart from leaving, what the heck can I do?
he cheated and you went back?
he cheated and you went back? wtf is wrong with people? SERIOUSLY? YOU LEAVE!!! Have some self respect.
Op here: maybe I should add
Op here: maybe I should add some things: I stayed because as a full time college student, I cannot afford to support myself and both my parents are dead so I have literally nowhere to go. Also, I am horrible at saving money so I never have enough for an apt anyway...
Many women prostitute
Many women prostitute themselves to get through college. It's a cottage industry. Make sure he wears a condom during oral, vaginal and anal sex so most sexually transmitted diseases can't be passed on - others may the passed by just skin to skin contact or kissing.
Obviously you should be using birth control as well as the condoms as you'll be leaving as soon as you graduate. You'll be mature enough by then to see how awful it would be to stay on where there is no real need to do so.
There is no reason for her to contact you. Your cell phone can block her number and email also if she's using that. Block her from Facebook and any other social sites and don't go with him when he's meeting to pick up the kids unless you want a threesome.
Op again, I checked out
Op again, I checked out rent.com and the closest city to where I live is an hour and a half away... I will check it out more later. To Orange Co Ca, my bf's ex-wife had him get himself 'fixed' so he can't get me pregnant, thankfully.