SOMEBODY out there Help.

Im a middle aged stepdad with a 20 (alomost 21 yr old stepdaughter. She has worked for me for about 4 years. I have known her since she was 8 or 9. Her mother and i have been together for 7 years and have a 5 year old of our own.

While working for me she has gained from me technical knowledge, met all my customers, i've paid for her training ($thousands), recently paid for trip out of state for her and countless other expenditures i made as a parent and employer.

She smokes cigarettes and pot like there is no tomorrow. to the point where she gets stupified. i dont mind if people want to relax put she is bipolar as it is.

Over the last year i have tried to cut her out of the business picture but she get weasling her way into my good graces for more hours. She was really sinking my business.
On our team trip to out of state for 8 days i thinks we had a conversation of 2 sentences between us. As an employee or stepdaughter she never answered her text messages from me unless it had to do with money for her.

I constantly had to assist her with her job here and she was never sincerely motivated for the big picture. Upon returning from out of state i finally cut her loose. Man did i have hell to pay. My wife gave me the cold shoulder and treated me like crap for 3 weeks until i finally told her the real truth on why i cut her fired her daughter. My wife of course bent over backwards to help her. SD was also cut loose from other part time gig and had to move out of lease apartment.

Subsequently she moved to another close by city. I thougth "Thank you God". But she used her ex boyfriend (whom she hated for about the last 4 months) to try and open an exact business like mine 2 blocks away. OH HELL NO.

I texted her and reminded her that she was under a non compete clause and i would see it through in court. Of course she didnt respond but went crying to momma ( i checked our phone bill). I was livid. After all these years of helping her out financially and putting up with her moodiness, SD rudeness and paying thousands of $ for her on the job she had the nerve to try and take my customers. She said she didnt but going on social media and soliciting likes and invites from my customers is not only a violation of agreement but down right disrespectful and ungrateful.

My wife took the brunt of it because i finally exploded verbally and let her know her daughter disgusted me. Of course my wife played the "im caught in the middle bs". I exclaimed to her that her adult daughter is a user and her trying to take money away from me is taking money away from our 5 year old. She called SD and told her not to open business here. SD said "i wont open over there out of respect for you (mom)".

So after a huge fight and we have had only 2 big ones in 7 years, we made up, cleared things up as a couple, made love and went to bed WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN around 1030pm there's a knock on the door. "who is it" i said. Police Dept! WHat? My wife and i opened the door. The female officer said she was looking for my wife because her daughter was concerned because my wife had her phone turned off for 2 hours. Unbelievable. I am so sick of this little bitch.

They text each other constantly and even more since this happened. I feel like my wife is making an effort to say and do things like a family but it's not the same. I feel like by the time i get home she has already texted and spoke on phone with miss bipolar so much that my life, our relationship lacks the passion or trust.

PLEASE HELP. I am a 49 year old athlete yet my body and health has suffered lately and i have become disengaged from my life. Moreover, my marriage has suffered enough. It's not fair to me or our 5 year old daughter.