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I'm thinking of ending this... Advice please!!

Living day to day's picture

So I've written a few posts the last couple of days. I have an out right now or I'll have to wait another year for one. I can move back to my home, get another job and start over. My oldest son-22 is newly on his own and doesn't want me to leave. My youngest son-12 does not want to leave. I cannot afford a place of my own because I have my home in another state that I still pay part of the mortgage, a car payment, etc... Even without those, I'd need 2 jobs just to survive here. I do like my coworkers and my job and the peacefulness of the beach, etc... And disney dad and I do get along except when mini wife is around. Read my Easter vent after listening to her ramble on. I think Disney dad wants us - his dtr and me to have a relationship-- and he doesn't get that it WILL never happen. I see a huge problem with her mental sanity and he flip flops between telling me in the past that she is bipolar and then saying, " that's how kids are these days!" I don't have to see her on a daily basis, but I am thinking disney dad, since he have my oldest son the boot a month ago, is plotting and planning to have mini wife stay with us in the extra room for the summer so he doesn't have to pay her rent. I'm just guessing. ( which would turn my life back into a living hell). He won't do it if he knows I'm done with his dtr., which I'm sticking to my guns of NOT wanting her at the house to watch my son-- which would NOT be good. Any advice?

AllySkoo's picture

I sort of hate to ask this, I feel like I'm prying, but since you asked for opinions.... What about Disney Dad? He sort of doesn't factor into your pros and cons list there, other than that you "get along". For me, the very first question is "Do you want to be married to him any more?" All else being equal, the answer to that question is your answer.