OT- DH has too many single women "friends"
Ugh, I hate that this even bothers me but damnit, he's mine and these women need to find their own man instead of relying on mine so much!
First off, I trust my husband completely but I think he's a little blind to other women flirting with him. And he's too emotionally available to them all the time. One of his friends is going through a divorce, just went through a bad "post divorce" break up a few weeks ago and then just this weekend had a one night stand and totally regrets it. She texts DH ALL the time, at all hours of the night...and he doesn't understand why I am so upset about this. This same friend, he spent some time with her a few months back and I feel hid it from me, until it accidentally came up weeks later!
Another single woman friend is always posting on his Facebook about how he should come see her when he's in her area. Again, he doesn't understand why her constant "proposals" of "Come see me" annoys the fuck out of me! I suggested that he would feel the same way if one of my single guy friends was constantly inviting me to his house...he says he wouldn't have a problem with it because he trusts me. Uhm it's not that I don't trust him, I don't trust her and don't think he should put himself in those kind of situations!
Today we went on a motorcycle ride and ended up in a town 2 hours away from where we live. We took the same route home that we took up to said town but had we gone a different route home, we would have went past where this woman's house and she posted how he "should have stopped to see her". I so want to respond to her that he was too busy spending time with his wife on a rare kid free weekend but I don't want to come off as jealous but damnit, find your own man and have him come visit you. This one is MINE and I don't share!!!
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I trust my husband
I trust my husband completely
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UGH. I always cringe when I hear this statement. I have only known two women that had to point out that they "trust their husbands completely". They both got cheated on by spouses.
Sorry, but I would be very very upset about all of this. IMHO...He is being to shady to be being faithful. Sorry.
And yes...he does know when he is getting flirted with. And apparently he likes it.
This would make me
This would make me uncomfortable to a degree I would not be willing to tolerate.
Delete the texts before he
Delete the texts before he reads them? Ask him to reply to the FB approaches that he'll bring you round to meet her?
See that is something I don't
See that is something I don't get. DHs best friend is me. Not someone else - male or female. I am the one who he lives with and is his best everything.
I think the difference is "My
I think the difference is "My DH's best friend is a woman. She respects our relationship and he's always clear with me when he's going to see her". Definitely different from finding out weeks later that they hung out. And the part where you said she respects your relationships. I don't feel these women do- they don't know me so why should they care about anyone but DH?
"If it makes you feel any
"If it makes you feel any better, I have known my male friends longer than I have known DH. They are just friends...And now they are DH's friends too."
This! He has one single female friend that I am very good friends with now. And I have a very good guy friends that DH is friends with now too. It's when these single women friends only want to spend time with him that makes me know their intentions are not good. And like one commenter said, I'm pretty sure if DH and I were ever separated, they'd "be there for him" in all the wrong ways!
I disagree. If he had an
I disagree. If he had an affair, I would definitely blame both him and them. In this current situation, I blame DH for not trying to understand my position and them for not respecting his marriage enough and making the comments they do. One woman has commented on Facebook about her ex thinking she and my husband were having an affair, so she joked about their (she and my DH's) imaginary relationship. Same woman just commented on the pic of our new motorcycle and it not being sexy enough for DH....
I definitely think it's a 2 way street. I've been there, I've been the single woman with male married men...I know what can happen. These women have not made an effort to get to know me or invite me/us to see them...only him so it's hard for me to think they're wanting to be just friends.
He says he does talk to then
He says he does talk to then about me, about how happy he is...and I'm not trying to say he's lying but...I really don't know how much he has said about me cuz I never see the texts to them. It's stated clearly in his FB page that he is married to me though.
I told him once that joking along with the "made-up" relationship with divorced lady that he was giving her the wrong impression.
When "stop and see me" lady wouldn't drop it on his FB page, posting "I see how you are" and "that's no excuse" when hubby said he didn't have time to go the long way home - I made a post on my page and tagged him in it but so far he hasn't allowed it on his timeline, though he says he did *rolling my eyes*
Divorced lady posted something about the bike being too sexy for hubby, or he was too sexy for it (don't remember cuz he deleted it), after he deleted it she posted "Still..." Apparently still trying to make her point. I'm still debating on commenting something about "my husband makes this bike look even sexier" or something to that effect, see if she backs off!
I don't think that there is a
I don't think that there is a simple answer for this as long as your DH continues to give these women the attention that you want focused on yourself. Are you in any way concerned that a possible affair could result from this? It can be a threatening situation on different levels but do you know exactly what your DH is getting out of it? He may claim that he is being there for his friend however its a problem when the spouse is feeling insecure or threatened from it.
Have you tried to tell your DH how this is affecting you and give him a chance to change his actions? If you have and he is continuing to do this, the problem lies with him.