BM dating former student
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It's been a long time since I have posted. We just found out that BM is dating a 20 year old kid (she is 42) who was a student at the school she works as a secretary at. She just cam out with this to the kids last summer (while he was 19). This kid was in the same graduating class as her 19 year old daughter and friends with her. He was in the house often as a minor and BM has known him since elementary school. Is this even legal? I am considering calling the school district and reporting it. This could have started while he was a minor and in any case he went to high school at the same school she works at the entire time she was there.
You might be surprised. My
You might be surprised. My high school guidance teacher fooled around with several girls over the years. He married one the day after she graduated from high school. Fast forward about 15 years and another teacher was caught doing the same thing. He spilled the beans on several teachers in the school messing with students for the last 15-20 years. Some resigned, some were fired, and the guidance counselor.....went to prison.
Even if the abused kids were legal adults when the poop hit the fan there were still repercussions. Check into it.
It just seems like there is
It just seems like there is alot in the news about teachers getting caught for dating students. I could understand if they didn't really know each other before, but the fact that he was in her home often as a minor seems to provide enough doubt that she would get fire or investigated.
Don't call anyone. As was
Don't call anyone. As was said above he's of legal age to date anyone of legal age and she qualifies for sure. I've seen this happen with a lecherous band director that the girls knew to stay out of reach of. He married a grad of that age. It came to a bed ending but it was too long ago for me to remember.
These woman are called "cougars" and between you and me as long as she doesn't get pregnant I don't see a problem with the idea. Of course someone can get emotionally hurt but likely as not they're just after sex and hopefully have discussed it so nobody gets hurt.
This was normal custom in Europe for centuries with everyone turning a blind eye. Well I'm sure it still is. The young fellow gets taught the tricks of the bedroom and the lady gets a young stud. What could go wrong?
I don't have a problem with
I don't have a problem with it as long as the woman didn't know the kid since elementary school and had him in her home as a minor. School employees can look elsewhere for dates.
Well, I went ahead and called
Well, I went ahead and called anyway and the Director of Personnel is discussing with the school district lawyers. She knows BM and knows the boy involved. Apparently he comes from a questionable family so I made sure she understood that this boy was in her home throughout high school and we have no idea when this relationship started. I also made sure to let her know that the kids reported alot of marijuana use with this boy in the home. That way if they want to get rid of her, it will be a slam dunk.
This boy has been good
This boy has been good friends with her daughter and in and out of the house for years as a minor. It's not a rumor - he spends the night at her house. And all three of the kids have reported the marijuana use to us. His dad also opened a CPS case today for the drug use and because she slapped her son and bloodied hid nose for questioning her about this relationship. If itd no big deal, nothing will happen, but the school can decide whether she should be around children with this behavior. I have a daughter too and predatory behavior by school staff is flat not okay. And that is what it is if you are a man or woman dating a kid half your age that you have known since third grade and was under your direction at school.
I think Mia Farrow said the
I think Mia Farrow said the same thing...
I'm not broke up about your
I'm not broke up about your calling the school as long as your motives were about safety and a possible predator (BM). Not to mention, she abused your skid in defense of her lifestyle.
No - to all of you who think
No - to all of you who think this should be covered up. I do not want my daughter in a school system that is okay with "grooming" underage kids to be sex partners, as long as they reach the magical age of 18. I am not okay with that and expect school employees, including the janitor and secretary, to look off campus for dates.