Ok thngs before I came in the picture were about the same with the ex-wife, but she gave her a reason by cheating on her son to be that way. She has no reason to be this way towards me as I have did nothing wrong so far. Yes fmil was taking care of the grandson while he was deployed. I have tried to ask this woman for advice, but everytime I have it is normally something negative about the way I am doing everything wrong. I do not work as I am disabled with a geneitic blood disorder.. She felt like i am sponging off him as my son and I were living here in his house while he was deployed to kuwait. Thank God he's home now, as she has somewhat backed off but I do wonder for how long.. I do hope this information helps a little more.. Thanks for your comment..