If I heard this story from someone else, I wouldnt believe it....
This is my life....
BM is crazy. So crazy that yesterday we decided we had enough of the harassment and SO blocked her number from his phone and from now on all communication goes through me. I explained to her that all communication was to be limited to necessary and emergency only.
She said its an emergency. SD is very depressed and is cutting and needs help and she doesn't know what to do anymore.
Without boring you with the details, SD has serious issues. We have always offered to get her help, as my sister works at a program for troubled young adults, but the help was always denied by BM. So I told her again yesterday that I will call my sister and get an emergency appointment and we will get her help.
She finally agreed.....BUT...Here's when it gets absolutely insane and proves what a selfish, self involved POS BM really is....
I text her and tell her that we are in and they will be calling me to set up an appointment. He response to me is "My boyfriend is taking me to cuba next weekend until the 30th so if we could get the appointment after I get back that would be better. i'll just be so busy getting ready to go next week".
Are you fucking kidding me???? You just went on for an hour about how terrible we are because we don't help enough and how troubled SD is and that shes cutting herself, saying she wants to kill herself and is deeply depressed and needs serious help and may end up in the psych ward, and then turn around and say you are too fucking busy so we should postpone it????
I swear, it took everything in me to not drive to her house, slap her in the face and leave with SD.
This after she said that SO was a terrible dad and doesn't care about his kid enough.
This woman is un-fucking-believable.
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Um. wow! this belongs in one
Um. wow! this belongs in one of those "my BM is so stupid" posts. what a schmuckwad!
Oh and to add to it....not
Oh and to add to it....not once has she said thank you to me.
First of all congrats on
First of all congrats on blocking her from his phone! We did this and I swear it saved our sanity and made our relationship less stressful.
However, in our case BM took the hint and hasn't called my phone once. She has sent a few emails to DH and has had to be reminded to keep it kid related only. It sounds like your BM is just continuing the bad habit with you. You need a back up plan.
This has only been the plan
This has only been the plan for 24 hours so we do have a backup plan
If she continues to harass us through my phone then we are simply going to call the police. My brother is a cop in the city we both live in and explained the process to us so he is all ready for when we call him lol
Yeah, maybe a response is
Yeah, maybe a response is needed here? OP, what do you think about replying to BM?
I mean, you went out of your way and used a personal resource to do SD a favor on behalf of BM and it's not CONVENIENT for her?? She needs to be told that this is a favor for SD and if her vacation is more important than SD's physical and mental health, then don't ask for help. IMHO
I replied. I was nice as pie.
I replied. I was nice as pie. I always am. It pisses her off. She is very high conflict so I just ignore all her bullshit and stick to the facts.
I told her that people wait 6 months to get their kids into this program so with or without her we are doing it. We have our first appointment Saturday at OUR house. Its killing BM. I asked her to give me any more information that she thinks they need to know and conveniently her phone was about to die so couldn't tell me......Shes not happy unless there is drama
Is there any reason you're
Is there any reason you're not having her evaluated at the hospital now? We were advised repeatedly that when our SD cuts or is in suicide idealization mode we should go straight (calmly) to the hospital. Not sure if it's the same where you are?
At the time BM didn't know
At the time BM didn't know she was cutting apparently. She lives with BM 70% and is home alone a lot. BM said she saw the marks on her arms at the beginning of the week, but she didn't inform us!
Thank you for your prayers. I
Thank you for your prayers.
I told her that we are having the appointment this weekend at our house and we will let her know the outcome. I just cant believe that someone could be so selfish.
Hope SD gets the help she
Hope SD gets the help she needs.
Now for you, stop being the go between for SO and BM. This will backfire on you. Have bm only contact so via text or email
That way you have her craziness in writing so it won't be he said, she said.
She doesn't ever call him.
She doesn't ever call him. She only texts him. But its incessant and he cant take it. Its every day, attacking him. "I hate you, I wish you were dead, you are a deadbeat" etc. Its much less stress if she is blocked from his phone. She will not say those things to me because I don't listen to her. This is what works best for us.