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Submitted by yogiboo587 on Wed, 02/26/2014 - 11:48pm

I CAN'T STAND MY BOYFRIEND'S KIDS. The moment they walk in the door my whole attitude changes. His 9 yr old
Daughter is a thief and a compulsive liar and his 6 yr old son breaks everybody's belongings including his own and can't be still to save his life. They are loud and annoying as hell. They copy anything my children do and/ or say. I simply can't stand them and I can't stand my boyfriend either. I wish i would've have never gave up my place and got a place with him!!! Now I'm trapped with no where to go and no money to get there. I live in pure hell.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 02/27/2014 - 12:02am

Do you have any family and/or friends that would help you? Even if they live far away they can help and hopefully would be willing to.

You're not trapped. You can and should be devising an exit plan, or a plan to at least make the situation better for you and your kids. Call your YWCA for counselor recommendations, your state's department of mental health for counselor recommendations, speak to a religious leader, etc.

Are you employed? That can help you in putting money aside so if you do leave, you have some money in the bank to help you.

At the very least get counseling for you and maybe even for your kids.

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Submitted by yogiboo587 on Thu, 02/27/2014 - 9:38pm

Hi anon2009,
Family ain't worth ish in this matter i.e. no help there because everyone has their own problems and no one has room for a grown woman and her three children. Spoke with my pastor and we prayed but honestly prayer hasn't eased the pain and day NY day, month by months, I've given up. My car broke down in August of last year (2009 cobalt), because I worked 30 mins away and we have no public transportation, I eventually lost my job the day after Christmas because I couldn't get to work, my bf turned out to be controlling and abusive towards me ( not my children) and i just can't forgive myself for this cause now I am trapped. Nothing but sadness...

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 02/27/2014 - 4:40am

You are not stuck.

Are you working and receiving CS? If so, use the money to move out.

If that isn't an option, go to a shelter.

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Submitted by yogiboo587 on Thu, 02/27/2014 - 9:41pm

In my case it is financial. If i could utilitize any of the options listed....we'd already be gone...

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Submitted by kathc on Thu, 02/27/2014 - 2:08pm

If you had your own place before, you can have your own place again. Call around, ask for help. If you truly want to leave you can find a way!

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Submitted by yogiboo587 on Thu, 02/27/2014 - 9:46pm

No it is not easy because I was on section 8, waiting list at the minimum of 2 yrs. Lost my part time job day after Christmas ( general cleaning), no savings, no family support. Mother is from place to place, father is a drug addict....done the shelter thing but was only allowed to stay for three months, had to come back, no place else to go