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usmc1984's picture

Sd's bio dad is in jail. He might be there for years if he doesn't beat his case.all of a sudden he is now a loving concerned father. He calls her every night. On one hand I am very happy that she is talking to him and he wants to talk to her I am a firm believer that that kids need both parents. On the other hand im worried for her because before he got arrested he hadnt had any contact with her for over a year. And if he continues his pattern if he gets out he will disappear again which always hurts her so much because she knows he is with his other kids and skid and then she becomes afraid that im going to leave her as well. I dont understand why bio dads do this shit to kids. My dad did it too and it took a long time to overcome the insecurity issues that stemed from that. :?

usmc1984's picture

Thank you for the suggestions I will definitely talk to dw about that. I hate to see her feel so.un wanted

Orange County Ca's picture

Below is a link to Amazon.com listings for "Daddy in jail" search I made.

I don't think his calls are for the judges information as I doubt if the judge gets such stuff. I think he just needs someone for him to leech support from and kids give unending and undemanding love. Is he calling collect? The next time he calls maybe your wife should tell him to limit the calls to one a week because your wife knows he's just going to stop once he's freed or sent to state prison.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss/179-5255037-5984955?url=search-al...

usmc1984's picture

he calls his wife and she calls on 3way.She does seem more upset after he calls and then happy waiting for his call. I feel guilty for not wanting him to beat his case, for her sake and also because he is guilty and the crime he committed is one that should be punished. He has already had 2 second chances its time to face the music. I'm no saint but he has some very very serious charges the only point to argue in his case was what intent he had. I checked out the link and ordered a few books. Mom hasn't wanted to tell her what the charges are but I think she is old enough to know..it paints a different picture and he wont be able to pull the poor me poor me im a victim of a messed up judicial system crap.

Rags's picture

It cracks me up when toxic moron criminals perpetrate crimes and then when they get caught and sent to prison they miraculously "come to Jesus" (so to speak) and start calling family that they have not spoken to in countless years, and start the sob story.

Yes these people are a sad story but where was the sudden need for connection and accountability when they were doing exactly what they were wanting to do when they were commiting crimes?