Get this so the Ex BM calls DH at work
BM calls DH at work yesterday and said can you buy Sson12 a Halloween mask? she just can't because she is paying us CS and she just don't have any money to do anything mind you she had a Bday party for sd10 and it was a bowling and pizza party big!! and then the next day she took them to a haunted house and then the last weekend had a party for sson17 and spent big again..
then she said oh I know this is bending the rules a little but would you think about me claiming 2 of the children on my taxes this year it would really help me.. mind you this woman has not helped out in five years she just started paying CS 4 months ago and she is calling My DH to cry to him at work..I told DH NO!!!and you better tell her right away because you have placement and they are here more then there and not to call you at work call you at home from now on unless the kids are sick or emergency ...
He said he knows he will..ugh!!!
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Hell would freeze over first
Hell would freeze over first before I gave away any tax dependents. However, I would buy the mask for the child because this is something that is specifically for him and this very probably will be his last Halloween getting to trick or treat. For me 12 is even pushing it. I think the whole trick or treating experience is for small children anyway.
When teenagers come to my door, I tell them I don't have anymore candy. I only give it out to the cute little kids...lol!
i would buy the mask. it's
i would buy the mask. it's not like it's a big item. i know it's more of the principle of things but it's just a mask. it seems like she does spend money on her kids so she probably just mismanaged and now doesn't have enough for the mask.
it would be so nice if we could all be cordial with one another but that's in a make believe world sometimes.
well i can't say that really because i get along very well with my sons stepmom or x stepmom (cus she wised up and realized he's a dog lol).
Oh I am going to get the
Oh I am going to get the mask but not the 45.dollar one he wants $$$$$
mind you this is a mixed family and there are 4 of his and 1 of mine here but she over spends and seems to mean she needs to manage her money better and get rid of one of her toys Harley maybe? because she can't put her and 4 kids on it the way he handles most of it is by not talking to her and giving in..but we own are home and she has been in six different lesbian relationships with one of them turning in to a guy..yep under my breath need I say more about that..she goes from one to the next but in there homes and has all of them spend there money on them and then cheats on them..but the kids have seen this for years..we pay for everything plus
the extra's and she didn't have to get any costume's because I was going to teach them how to make there own mask the put make up on and away they go it's going to be cold anyway so put your coat on and painted face and have fun!!!yep she still owes use 400.00 from after court got out it was the first payment to us before they took cs out and never payed it and said she had to get breaks she is a money HOG!!!!
I agree with totally bogus.
I agree with totally bogus. Get him a mask - but as you said, not the $45 one. But allowing her to take the tax break while the skids are living with you ... no way because that would be $$$thousands! As an adult, she needs to prioritize and budget better.
So true she needs to budget
So true she needs to budget better she also keeps telling sd10 she can come live with BM but that's not going to happen after almost 6 years. We have a hold on things allot better with skid's. but when they go there she feeds them bull and try's to get them to start bull around the house and if I say something they say I don't have to do what you say I have a mom!! I say true but when you are here in this house you have to go by DH and my rules!! She only wants them to go to there place so they don't have to pay CS she told DH in court give them to me and I will sign a paper saying you don't have to pay cs she makes more money then DH with out CS and she can't manage her $$$$ DH needs to wake up and tell her to stop with the bull..grow up these are children your messing with!!!
In the long run when I first moved here she use to walk in to the house and made it clear to me this was all going to be her's someday..DH is a auto body tech never putting a mask on when working ugh and he is a heavy beer drinker so she thinks hes going to kick the bucket I work in the health care and he is very healthy...
she told me she was going to get his social security money when he dies and I wouldn't get anything.. and she would get the house for the kids I told her you think so then when she divorced him back in 2001 she tried to have his life insurance beneficiary in her sisters name so she could have the money when he dies for the children..and she was to have one on her but she stopped her policy and DH still has his..WE put allot of are money in to it every month..how odd for someone to think she still can control everything here when she never lived here. I think she is one odd duck and sick for the way she thinks DH has wrote up the will and it don't have her on it and the kids don't get anything until they are 25 and it's not much because he feels for the ages they are now 17,15,12,10 they should respect and because they don't he is giving them the hard life back..in the future they will be shocked when it's time for the reading of the WILL we had a 1 year old dog it was a big dog and they would walk in and knee her and they wouldn't have anything to do with her so I gave her to a rescue and for weeks on end they never asked were she was or what happiness to her DH and I took it so hard.. my Bson18 new and he took it hard as well ugh...
Ok, I'm going to play
Ok, I'm going to play devil's advocate toward the mask. Don't most of us on here get mad that the BM asks for DH to pay for "extra" things because our DH pays CS and that's what CS is for? This is a reverse situation... devil's advocate off.
I definitely wouldn't pay $45 for a mask that's going to be worn only one day, but I would buy a cheap mask or do makeup like you were saying. I think the makeup idea is awesome as it's so much more "customized" and doesn't interfere with the child's vision.
As for the taxes, hell no! Too bad it would "help her out", but how much has she "helped out" with all the everyday expenses and responsibilities you endure?
CS is for basic needs of the
CS is for basic needs of the child, food, clothing and shelter. Sometimes insurance percentages, childcare and extra curriculars are added to the percentage the NCP pays. A mask is not any of those. I wouldn't have a problem supplying something like that for my SDs because it truly is for their benefit. not
Like I said, I was playing
Like I said, I was playing devil's advocate. I wouldn't have a problem with it either. Maybe I shouldn't have said "most". It's just that I know I was guilty of feeling like "we give a lot of CS to BM why does she expect us to pay for this 'extra' or why can't she pay for it when she knows we are struggling" and maybe to her it didn't seem like we were or the reason we were struggling was our own fault. She used to always say "you guys are 'rich'" because we owned a house and had a decent car, but the part she didn't see was how we were over our heads with a mortgage and car payments when EBF lost his job, and yeah that was our stupid decisions for not having a backup plan or enough savings. We would be paying CS first before our electricity bill when we were on notice of it being turned off because we were behind in payments. Then she would get mad when we couldn't pay for some 'extra' thing EBFD wanted when BM was just talking about how she bought a new computer. There's always 2 sides to a story and sometimes each side judges the other without all the facts or what appears to be a case of "you're not doing things how I think you should". I have definitely been guilty of the latter. I was more trying to relate the feeling behind it rather than the actuals. If you know what I mean.
Anyway, sorry if my comment offended. This BM doesn't sound like she can't afford it other than her not being able to budget. I was just playing the other side for a minute because it can be frustrating on both sides.
BM has a car she pays for
BM has a car she pays for and her extra is a Harley motorcycle she pays like 300.00 payment on it why don't she get rid of it to have money for when she see's the kids YA THINK!!!!!to bad to sad don't call on my DH's should about not budgeting your bills right!!!!I can say DH lets her get away with allot before but now the table is turned and she has to pay CS and she don't like it!!!!I think it's also sad when she told her kids how much she pays us so skids think the money is for them to spend I am sm and I will stand up for what is right and back off when I am wrong but on this she has no room to win with me here...STRONG WILLED and will not give up for my rights and for these poor children who didn't ask for this divorce in the first place but will give them what I gave my own children Love laughter and guidance threw life until they left the nest and sometimes after..... we don't have extra's we are not rich and we live with in are means why can't she with 4 children?
Well I think the entire idea
Well I think the entire idea behind all this is not so much the mask like big deal right, but calling her husband at work for something so dense? Like come on. If my DH ex called him at work for something stupid...I would damn well tell him if " I as your wife can not make phone calls for stupid crap like that then she sure as hell can not". Where do these ex's get off...it's like they feel they still own the DH or something. Why don't they take along walk of a short pier or something.
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I said something last night
I said something last night about why is it ok for BM to call you at work about stupid stuff and it's ok and when I do it it's a big deal DH didn't have much to say about it he just looked at me BINGO!!!!!The mask thing is no big deal I will find him something he likes but the tax stuff to bad to sad it's are call and it's NO!!! DH just needs to stand up to BM and tell her she has no right to call him at work unless one of the kids are sick or school stuff when she has them then hang up on her!!!