He lets SS17 have sex in our house
I came home from work and heard noises. Like someone is pounding on the upstairs wall. I run up there and SS17 is having sex in his room. You can clearly hear it right outside his door. I knocked on the door and sent the girl home. I called my DH and to my suprise he ask me why do I care what SS is doing in his own room. :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: What?!!!.
What the heck. I don't know how you all do things so I might get flack for this. But I don't think its ok for a 17 year old to be having sex in my house. My DH came home and we talked about it. He told me if it bothers me he will tell SS no more sex in the house. I'm still just shocked right now.
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Exactly! OP: won't it bother
Exactly! OP: won't it bother your DH when he's expected to help raise his son's illegitimate spawn in a year or so? Lord, I would never allow this in my own home! My DH and I are having to live at my mom's for a bit, and I still feel awkward doing the deed, lol.
Nope. Get that out of your
Nope. Get that out of your house.
This is a discussion your DH
This is a discussion your DH should have had with you before he ever gave his permission, as it is your home as well as his.
What do you care what SS is doing in his own room??? If you can hear it throughout your house, it isn't contained to "his own room".
Nobody should have to know what he sounds like when he has sex. That's disgusting.
Question: would he feel the
Question: would he feel the same if it was his daughter getting pounded in the next room? I think not. Totally inappropriate!!
Holy crap. I understand
Holy crap. I understand wanting to be open and accepting. I wholeheartedly believe that adults need to provide proper education and have non-shaming attitudes about sex when dealing with teens so that they can avoid all the hangups that stem from repressive environments BUT there are still boundaries.
Go to your room and play
Go to your room and play Barbara Streisand as loud as possible the next time your DH and SS are home. Then when they complain say, "Why would you care what I do in my own room?" That is just disgusting that your DH would think that was ok.
I agree with all the comments
I agree with all the comments and will be sharing with my husband. I'm not sure how old the girl was She looked around SS's age maybe a bit older. But some girls look old for their age.
WOW..Just wow! I would flip
WOW..Just wow! I would flip my lid. More at DH than SS. Who lets their 17 year old have sex in the house?!
Edit to add... my DS is 20ish and he knows better. But that is the way he was raised. It sounds like you DH is raising you SS to be a jerk.
SS Said " What the hell is
SS Said " What the hell is your problem". He then argued me back and forth and talked to his dad. Don't ask me why he did it I don't know don't care don't want it happening ever again. I'm really aggitated by all of this horse crap.
Gross and why in God's name
Gross and why in God's name would the kid (and GF) WANT to have sex in your house anyway???? No freaking way would I have felt cool having sex in my parent's house at 17 years old, 21 year old, 35 years old. Just no.
i'd embarrass the hell out of
i'd embarrass the hell out of him.
next time i wouldnt knock. i'd bust it wide open. "WTH, ss? are you a 5 year old where you cant handle simple house rules? am i gonna have to put you in time out? by the way, what the hell is up with you pounding her into the wall? no girl is gonna think bruises on her ass is sexy! damn has no one taught you anything??? and i sure as hell hope you wrapped it, you dont want her catching any of *ahem* what u've got."
}:)
eta- ur dh is a douchetard if he thinks this is acceptable. just because he wont handle it, doesnt mean you need to put up with it!
Me - I would find out who the
Me - I would find out who the girl is and call her parents...Let them get involved in this mess. I would make sure they know I am not the mom and they need to have their discussions with DH since he has no problem with it. There is a reason they were doing it at your house....Your husband is an idiot.
^^this^^ did your DH ever
^^this^^ did your DH ever stop to think about what this girl's parents might think about your DH giving your son free reign to bang their daughter??? I'd be pissed as all hell if I was this girl's parents and this wasn't discussed with me.
I don't know her name and I
I don't know her name and I doubt SS would tell me. I should look through his facebook page and I will be contacting her parents.
I could see myself doing
I could see myself doing this. Here DH this is the number to girl's parents. Give them a call and explain to them that you allow your son to bring their daughter here to have sex. Lets just see what they think about all of this. If he refuses then you can tell him of course you wont do that because you know it is wrong to allow two minors to have sex in our home. IF he does call them then he is more of an idiot than I already imagine he is.
There is a law against
There is a law against serving minors alcohol. Is there one about allowing them to have sex in your home as well? I know there was a case where a parent allowed others peoples kids to have sex in his home, but I don't remember the outcome of it.
I know. I asked DH what if SS
I know. I asked DH what if SS was a girl he said " Well I don't have a girl so thats not the problem". Just trying to avoid the subject when he knows he is wrong.
What an ass! His son's penis
What an ass! His son's penis is his problem and whoever it falls into is too!
He said duh he's not stupid.
He said duh he's not stupid. DH appreantly supplies him with condoms.
The boy is 17 and he can't
The boy is 17 and he can't get his own? What a joke!
where's your bedroom in
where's your bedroom in relation to ss's?
i've got an evil thought.
Downstairs his is upstairs.
Downstairs his is upstairs. But there is a guest bedroom next to his room . What is the thought.
can u hear them coming down
can u hear them coming down the stairs from your bedroom? if so, i would totally go all meg ryan in there juust as they get close enough to hear. it will gross him out to hear what he thinks is his sm getting off. now he'll know how it feels. and if your dh hears about it and has a problem with it? hell, it's your room, u can do what you want in there.
If needed I can supply
If needed I can supply pictures of my new niece/ step grand kid courtesy of SS15 and his inability to keep it in his pants
And that wasn't even a parent approved activity! And yeah... there are condoms in the house for ALL the kids to use if needed. Just because they are supplied does not mean their used... esp if the dip shyte wrapping it thinks they feel slimey.
End result of a teen playing with sex: $10,145.00 (OBGYN and delivery) $5000.00 (hospital) $27000.00 (adoption)$2.50 for the unused condom.
$42,145.50
great minds think alike!
great minds think alike! that's why i'd asked her where their bedroom was in relation to ss's... }:)
chances are ss cant hear her and her dh at night, but she can make sure of it if/when he and his gf are there when she gets home from work!!!
that would be awesome!!!
that would be awesome!!!
Just want to mention that if
Just want to mention that if you are a guardian of a minor and you allow your child to have sex within your home you can possibly have child abuse charges brought up against you.
If your son/daughter are under the age of consent and/or their "friend" is under the age of consent for your state and you knowingly allow it you are asking for trouble. States range form 16 to 18 on this. I would advise you check your state's age of consent.
My SD14 had a new boyfriend
My SD14 had a new boyfriend over last Saturday. We have a finished basement with a bathroom, small kitchenette, fridge, 60" TV etc. Perfect place for a teen to entertain friends. I went to take a shower and came out to see my DH sitting in the great room talking to his daughter who was upstairs on the landing. I asked him with a horrified look on my face "is boy up there in her bedroom???" His reply was "no, of course not- they are in your daughter's room (away at college) watching tv - is that bad??" Yes honey, it is bad. There are no chairs up there, so I assume they are laying on her bed watching tv??? New rule in the house- nobody with a penis is allowed past that first step!!! Why do I have to point this out????? :jawdrop:
I guess it'll also be OK with
I guess it'll also be OK with your DH when SS gets his GF pregnant, her parents kick her out and she and the baby end up living in your house, too.
What a bunch of crap! I'd ask
What a bunch of crap! I'd ask your hubby if he is planning on forcing SS to work or if your hubby is just going to pay his CS for him??