Had it all planned out down to the hour. DSO never, ever talks with BM about upcoming holidays and schedules. I tried asking on Saturday with no responses from SD or BM. Now, SD is txting me asking me who, what, where, when and how. I finally texted that I had tried to plan. Then I said that I have left it up to your Dad when you can stay and open presents. I'm done trying.

My family get together is tomorrow. He will drag the pervy SS20 there, but there will be lots of people and alcohol so I will hide and drink. I work from 7am - noon on Christmas. I told DSO that he can plan it, I just want to spend time with my adult bios either at my house or I will go to their houses on Christmas Day after I get off of work.

Next year. He can do it all and I have told him numerous times. He puts no thought, effort or help into his own kids Xmas and I'm not doing it anymore.