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Bradymom's picture

Submitted by Bradymom on Wed, 11/20/2013 - 11:50pm

This is gunna be a flat out racey subject. When stepkids are in home do you find yourself having sex:

1. The SAME as when they're not there.
2. MORE than when they're not there.
3. LESS because they're in home.
4. NO SEX because they're in home.
5. Haven't noticed.

and WHY do you think this is the case?

2. We have sex more. I think because the stress level high & I like to feel close. There have been times when we are divided on issues that this isn't the case, but... Typically it's more.

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luchay's picture

Submitted by luchay on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 12:02am

The same. Usually quieter and not as intense IYKIM, but yes, regardless of WHO is here we still get busy LOL

Although - we are more likey to have leisurely Sunday morning sex on non-skid weekends....

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 5:31am

The same. The Skid lived with us so we sure were not forgoing our intimate life because there was a kid in the house. We met when he was 15mos old and married a week before he turned 2.

My parents were very active when we were kids. That was the example I had a kid and that is what I have lived as an adult. Affection is important and sex is important. It is important for the kids to know what a healthy spousal relationship looks like so they can have confidence in their own adult relationships.

When I say looks like ... of course I am not talking getting busy in front of the kids.

IMHO of course.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 6:45am

The same- but we have all the kids all the times (except every other weekend). When they are gone we do get louder, more spontaneous and in different places Blum 3

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 7:41am

We went from being long distance NCPs to CPs this summer, but this week is the first time I've been in the same house as DH and SD17, due to my deployment and DH moving across the country. So far, it's been more than previously. We were pretty steady with once a week. (Two high stress jobs with long hours = sleep time, not sexy time during the week) I'm sure that one I'm here full time, we'll settle back into our old routine.

I told DH a year or so ago that I wasn't going to change our behavior just because of SD17 - she's been 'active' for three years now, and if she wants to be all adult like that, she doesn't get shielded from a healthy adult relationship. We'll be courteous like we would if we had roommates; no excessive make out sessions, or loud screaming sex, but that won't stop us from doing it in the bedroom at night, or cuddling and tamely smooching on the couch.

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 8:21am

The same. We don't change a thing except location, we keep it in our bedroom with the door shut when they are around. We have grown accustomed to ripping each other's clothes off the minute we get home from work, especially on stressful days. We aren't going to change our habits just because the skids are there. IMO, everyone needs alone time, unwinding time, whatever you call it after work/school/daily life. Skids have time in their rooms, we have time in ours. It's a good arrangement.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 11/21/2013 - 9:00am

Less because the only time I resent my DH is when his spawn is with in the walls of my home.

let me say this, the whole demeanor of our relationship has changed for the better since she went to live with MIL. infact every relationship in my house is better with out her there.