My Dh falls asleep on the couch. I wake him up and make him come to bed.

sometimes they just dont get it. mine would go lay down with skids (god forbid preteens learn how to put themselves to bed) and he'd fall asleep. he'd come to bed sometimes 2 or 3 oclock in the morning and ask "why didnt you come get me?" "cuz i'm not your momma, and it'd mean so much more to me if you just did it on your own, for me." never did sink in....

doesnt happen anymore, they've (mostly) grown out of the cosleeping thing. but it used to irritate the ever loving shit out of me.

i'm like you, tho - "I just need it, the closeness and the bond.... I don't sleep for crap when he does not come to bed." sleep deprivation makes it that much worse. and dh's wonder why it's an effective torture mechanism!

I may be the wrong person to comment on this. My exH did this though. And quite frankly I believe it was one of the many things that led to our demise. Dh almost always comes to bed with me, and at times I wish he wouldn't. He always ends up pressed up against me, on top of me, or with his arm under my pillow. And he's like sleeping with a space heater! It can get uncomfortable...

I would go insane too. The last few moments in bed together before we drift to sleep is our favorite time of day. As soon as we pull the covers around us and I lay on his chest - it's a huge sigh of contentment and sweet nothings. I don't blame you for being upset. You deserve that.

Confession. Most nights we don't sleep in the same bed anyway. Despite sleep studies, every snoring cure known to man and surgery, he snores. Not snores but SNORES. It sounds like every Canadian lumberjack firing up their chainsaw.

After four years of averaging about 3 hours of sleep a night and despite his continued resistance, most evenings I sleep on the day bed in our office.

I love sleeping alone so i'm the wrong person to comment on this. However, hubby is not a cuddler at all so even when we do sleep together he just rolls one way and I roll the other and go to sleep. It took me forever to get used to even sleeping with him since I was used to being on my own for so long.

I went through this same thing. Only difference was he was sleeping with his son every weekend we had him. I just put my foot down about a week and a half ago. It worked, but now we have new issues They don't understand how important it is in a marriage for the couple to sleep together

I'm guilty of this, we work different hours though, he goes to bed earlier than I and then I fall asleep on the couch. I'll get up later and cuddle in, he's a heavy sleeper so I don't think he minds.

LOL!

Oh overworked, this post comes at such the right time for me.

DW used to complain about me falling asleep on the couch. I snore too so DW would get very annoyed with me. She used to complain about it....That is....Until the day that she started working full-time and SHE started passing out on the couch long before I do.

You know what she complains about now? "Why don't you carry me into bed?"

:o/

Urm...Okay...So on the weekend she passed out on Man of Steel. I thought I could get my pecs to work like Henry Cavill's. Unfortunately, my pecs don't work like they used too and DW is a slightly heavier than she used to be (SHHHHHH! Don't tell her!)....Oh I managed to carry DW into bed, but I damn near gave myself a hernia and I bonked DW's head on the doorframe.

Eh...Sorry, I know you're looking for good advice here. DW and I are not hung up on this especially when sleep is a precious commodity in our home. Between 3 kids and 1 attention-starved dog, logging in 5 hours of sleep in one night is actually good for us.

Maybe this is a good time for him to discover a sex toy or two in the bed. When he drifts off to sleep on the couch, be sure to cover him with a blanket and place his pillow near him. You can wait up in bed for him just for a little bit then set your trap and have fun with it.

He already knows how you feel about sleeping together in bed yet he is choosing to park it on the couch. The more you say about it, the less you might get in this case. If he wants action and you want the closeness then make him work for it. And by covering him up while he is asleep on the couch will get the point across if he doesn't expect that coming from you.

Right now it is 11pm here and DH is asleep on the sofa while I'm in bed on here! I don't mind because he was up at 5am with our youngest this morning, and it doesn't happen much nowadays, but in the past his sofa sleeping has been a huge problem between us. For a long time is was caused by, and a disguise for, his drinking. He would either fall asleep because he had been drinking or stay downstairs so that he could continue after I had gone to bed. At that point I had no idea how much he drank and he had not admitted to himself or me that he was an alcoholic. When his drinking began to cause other problems in our relationship he would stay downstairs to avoid dealing with them. He stopped drinking 6 years ago and now his falling asleep downstairs is an occasional rather than a regular thing. When it did happen a lot it was surprising how hurtful and frustrating it was.

Do you have to have a prescription for the c-pap machine - like from a sleep study?

My FDH got one last year, thank god because I couldn't sleep with him before. His snoring was out of control. Now all I hear is the machine, which is a very low rhythmic noise.

Occassionally I will get my sleep schedule screwed up to the point that I will sleep on the sofa. Not because I am trying to avoid my bride but because I do not want to disturb her. I will fall asleep on the sofa and move to the bedroom in the middle of the night.

Early in our marriage I slept primarily on the sofa for several years. I am naturally a night owl and my wife is a morning and day kind of person.

When she has taken acception she tells me it is time to start sleeping in bed and I move to the bed. Until the next time I screw up my schedule.