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AlamoJ's picture

Submitted by AlamoJ on Tue, 10/29/2013 - 12:06pm

First, I am so thankful for this group. After reading some of the posts, it really is a stress relief to know that I'm not the only one dealing with difficult SD's.

I am coming to a breaking point, and realize that I MUST do things differently if I want to continue my relationship with their Father. I love him very much, and have tried to work on my relationship with him, and with the SD's. Sadly, it seems that the harder I try, the worse it gets.
Almost 5 years have gone by, and we've been though so much, that I don't want to feel like it was all for nothing.

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Submitted by kathc on Tue, 10/29/2013 - 12:34pm

Sometimes it's better to walk away from 5 years than to waste another 10, kwim?

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 10/29/2013 - 12:49pm

how old are the skids? Are they in their teens where there may be an end in sight or are they like 7? I have SD15.5 and SS14.5, I can honestly say that if they were under the age of 12 right now, I would probably walk. No way could I look another 8 years (or beyond) putting up with skid crap, BMs crap, and DH crap.

DH and I had about 8 months last year where SD15 was being a little snot and SS14 was (and still is) being a tool box and we had zero contact with SD and minimal contact with SS. It was the best freaking 8 months of our marriage. No fighting, no drama, no nothing. Then all hell broke loose when SD15 decided that she wanted to move in with us in April Sad

That's another question... do skids live with you?