So DH calls me (we are currently apart) and tells me the cops just left our house. There is a guy (one of DH's friends) that is renovating our house right now and living there. He's working mostly in the basement and DH has asked him to "look after" SS also before and after school. I don't know exactly what he does for SS but it's probably not much. It's just to say an adult is in the house so SS9 isn't technically home alone. For the record, he is the most irresponsible kid that I know of and personally I would never even think to leave him alone without constant adult supervision. Alas, DH has decided this is what he has to do, so thats that. Anyways, so the cop came to the door and told DH that SS aparently locked a kid in our house today and wouldn't let him go home. He had all the doors in our house locked and held onto him by the shirt and wouldn't let go. The kid eventually went home and told his parents, hence the call to the cops. So when DH calls to tell me this, I kept trying to get him to tell me the details of what happened, why it happened, if he's disciplined SS and so on. DH didn't say much about it. He told me he sent SS right to bed because it was too late to deal with it and he would deal with it in the morning. I'm so bugged about it.
1. DH won't tell me anything
2. DH was too tired/lazy to deal with it right away
3. SS has been letting random kids into our house without adult supervision or permission

I don't know why DH doesn't see this as a big deal. I would be out of my mind if a cop came about my DD.
I know that when I do go back to our house this weekend, things like this will not be happening. AGainst my better judgement, I keep SS in line and I at least am able to keep him out of trouble as long as I'm there.
BTW this whole thing goes back to the fact that BM thought SS was too much to handle and sent him to live with DH. If SS is still going to be misbehaving and no learning to be responsible, then why the hell is he living with you DH? You're not parenting any better than BM.
What am I supposed to do in this situation? How am I supposed to sit idly by while other parents are calling the cops on a kid that lives at my house ( that I supposedly parent)?