I've known my husband since we were 11 yrs old. There was about 10 years that we didn't have contact and in that time he had 2 kids. A son who is 12 and a daughter who is 9. I have been with my husband for 3 years now. We didn't get to see the kids that often for the mother has always made things extremely difficult for us. Such as not being there when we come by to get them. Finally DFS contacted us with concerns. After what we found out, we got a lawyer and were in the process of trying to get custody. I know that this can be a long process and in the state of MO, it's almost unheard of the father winning in a custody battle. Still we knew it would be better for the kids to live with us.
2 days after I lost a really good job, we got a call in the middle of the night to come get the kids from the police station. Their mother's home was kicked in due to drugs and stolen property. It goes much deeper and worse than you can think of... go ahead.. try. They couldn't ever get any of their things fir their property was listed as evidence. They came with the clothes on their back.
I'm breaking down constantly (not in front of the kids) and feeling myself falling into a depression. With all that has been needing to be done with the kids, I haven't been able to do anything for myself. Like find a job. I am exhausted all the time. My husband is awesome and supportive but he's only human and having his own issues as well. I'm finding myself sitting on the couch sometimes not knowing what to do. When I know there's plenty to be done. I need help and don't know where to turn.