OMG- She wrote on the wall!!
I just walked by SD's room and noticed the reading light was on. So I walked over to her bed to turn it off and noticed it was pointed at the wall. And there on the wall she had written a bunch of names of anime characters! Seriously? She's not 4 years old, she's TWELVE!
I am pissed. I took a pic and will be emailing it to FDH to explain he needs to call her right now and ask her to explain herself. She also needs to plan to clean it herself when she comes next time.
I guess this is what she did in response to my foiling her attempt to steal back her computer last night.
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And she points the reading
And she points the reading lamp at it... was she TRYING to get you to notice it?
And left the light on this
And left the light on this morning too!
LOL. I can't wait to see
LOL. I can't wait to see this.
My skid took 20 bottles of
My skid took 20 bottles of nail polish and painted her entire window and window sill.
I was not amused
How old was she? And how did
How old was she? And how did you respond?
I just emailed a pic of it to
I just emailed a pic of it to FDH and told him that she's doing something I would expect of a pre-schooler. I told him I wanted an apology ASAP, that she would be cleaning this herself, that she should be punished for defacing our property and that he really needs to do something as her behavior nuts.
His response? "What does it say?"
I said "It's a bunch of names of anime characters. But that's not the point. She's acting like a toddler and acting out big time. Something MUST be done about her behavior. I don't even know what to say anymore!"
So, if it said "I love my
So, if it said "I love my daddy" would it carry a different consequence?? **SMDH** they just don't get it, do they??
Right?? He would probably say
Right?? He would probably say "Aw, that's sweet. And she's just expressing herself as an artist". I guarandamnteee you that he will blow this off. And I will completely blow as gasket. The writing is LITERALLY on the wall that she's out of control. He will excuse it.
I agree. I was just saying
I agree. I was just saying what he would say in her defense.
We rent this home. And even if we owned it, I would only do such a thing if she needed it. But she is twelve and doesn't need to write on walls. She did this because she was bored and mad and obsessed.
If he doesn't address this
If he doesn't address this properly, I think I may go there. So, I will probably be going there.
Oh man. I would lose it. If
Oh man. I would lose it.
If he lets her get away with this, she will escalate. I even said that to him in email. Basically, what's next in her behavior spiral?
HAHA, that just made me
HAHA, that just made me seriously laugh out loud.
I understand that. She's very
I understand that. She's very into it so I have paid attention. She goes to all the conventions and all that. Her big sister is into it too. But it's become a complete obsession to the point she has no other interests.
She draws a lot of anime characters but has done less and less of that recently. She's a very good artist. I am very supportive of art and have no problem paying for art supplies, etc... (Did this with my own son's art). We even bought her a tablet you hook up to the computer so you can draw on it and upload the drawings, etc... He asked her about it last weekend and she lost the cord and has also determined it's not good enough.
I'm at a loss.
I admit. I'm a bad parent.
I admit. I'm a bad parent. I giggled when I read this. I remember when my not-so-darling-son did that...
Oh, wait!!! He was 3!!!!!!
She's 12!!!!
Oh, either dad makes her do some major chores or HE's in trouble!!
Kate
I did it when I was four and
I did it when I was four and still remember it because I was so embarrassed when I got caught and punished.
My dd, when she was about 8
My dd, when she was about 8 wrote, "Birds are turds" on our deck. I left it there. At age 11, she is now embarrassed about it.
That's hilarious.
That's hilarious.
OMFG I'd be livid.
OMFG I'd be livid.
Livid doesn't even begin to
Livid doesn't even begin to describe it. This is about a whole lot more than writing on a wall. This is about her atrocious behavior that is escalating at every turn and no one is addressing it.
So FDH finally responded
So FDH finally responded after an hour. Of course, he quickly responded to my first email, as noted above. But then went silent when I followed up.
He said his plan was:
1- Talk to her next time she's here
2- Make her apologize in writing
3- Make her clean it up
4- Make her clean up other marks on walls as a consequence.
He also included a link to a web site about appropriate consequences.
I responded
1- That would be a great consequence if we actually had marks on any other walls so this isn't a consequence.
2- If this were my child, I would have called her ASAP and would've been very mad at her.
3- I shouldn't have to wait a week for an apology ( she wont' be here until next Thursday)
4- Needs to be dealt with ASAP
5- I am alarmed that he doesn't recognize this as a bad thing and that he clearly doesn't seem worried or angry or anything.
I forgot to mention that I
I forgot to mention that I sorta went nuts on him in response. This whole thing just sent me over the edge. I basically emailed back with what I said above but also said something like "I guess I shouldn't expect this to alarm you because you weren't alarmed last night when she showed up for an outdoor 4th of July party in a thick hoodie, looking like she just fell out of bed, refusing to get out of the car, insulting adults by refusing to return their gracious hellos, sitting there angry like a jackass for two hours and basically causing you to spend the entire holiday event doing nothing but trying to coddle and entertain her meanwhile the 20+ other kids there, all under the age of 10 were all entertaining themselves, including the 4 year olds.
Of course, he won't ever respond to that.
I am all for letting the
I am all for letting the parent of the child actually parent the child and handle discipline.
Except when the parent is a wuss who won't do anything. You have the right to rip that little bitch a new one. Don't hold anything back. Inform her that she is acting like a 4 year old. And that no one but an absolute POS would do what she did at her age. Lay it on thick. Make her acknowledge what a worthless piece of crap she is.
I am going to have to.
I am going to have to. Because he didn't call her today to deal with it. He wants to wait until she's here. By then, he will have forgotten about it and won't say a word. So over dinner next Thursday, I will have to explain to her that I saw what she did to our wall, that if it ever happens again that she will be dealing with a much faster and angrier response, that after dinner she can take the magic eraser to get to work on cleaning up her own mess, that I don't appreciate her selfishness, that if it's not cleaned perfectly she will owe us the money taken out of the security deposit for it, that the wi-fi is disabled for her entire visit (three days) and that I am simply not putting up with her antics anymore.
If he won't parent and stand up for me and our house, I am standing up to that little selfish shit.
I kind of laughed too until
I kind of laughed too until you told me this is a rental home. Honestly, this is just some serious teenage delinquent rebellion crap and she probably loves the idea that you're pissed off. That's why she shined the light on it I assume. It seems like she's escalating because maybe you she wants you to blow your top? I don't know, I don't understand these types of girls. Just a theory.
I really like the idea of disabling the wi fi, how about for the entire time she's at your house for the rest of the month? That's what I'd want to do, or at least hiding the password from her, and then get on your laptop right in front of her and start laughing at some youtube videos or funny facebook messages, all right in front of her. I also wouldn't yell at her at all, because I think that's exactly what she wants. Take her drug away from her, that'll get her good! Oh, and don't tell your DH the password because he'll just give it to his daughter.
You know her weakness, the internet, so I'd capitalize on that. What a huge brat.
I would laugh too if she were
I would laugh too if she were 4 or if this wasn't directly in response to my hiding her computer at 1AM after her attempt to ruin 4th of July.
I can't disable the wi-fi for the whole visit without giving her dad the password because he will want to go on his iPad. But I have to do something with a real consequence that say "You write on my wall, this is the result...." Need to think this through. Thanks to FDH's ostrich plan on this, I have a full week to come up with a good Anne plan. This shit will NOT be escalating one more time. I've had it with her.
Yes you can. YOU are the one
Yes you can. YOU are the one who enters in the password on his iPad.
And then you can punish HIM if he decides to guilty-daddy and give his iPad to SD.
Reading this, I realize I was
Reading this, I realize I was a really rotten kid....
I drew on the wall next to my bed when I was 14 (I drew my boyfriend's name and initials and a bunch of hearts in pencil). My mother made me clean it and repaint the wall. She wasn't angry with me, she simply told me not to do it again and handed me the rag and paint can and brush... She then bought me a white board and told me to "express myself" on that instead.
I can tell you after washing and repainting the wall that I never drew on it again, and was quite happy to use my whiteboard instead.
My SS17 wrote on the wall of
My SS17 wrote on the wall of his bedroom. Then used a pencil eraser to try and remove it. So it just created a huge smudge of pencil yuck.
He was 16 at the time.
After he moved out this year and we cleaned out his room, I found that he had carved swear words into his headboard.
Classy.
I wish he would have been around to make him clean and paint the walls, but then again I don't miss him at all.
He sucks.