Well, things must be going too well with DH and I so SD has to try to mess it up. He has finally, in the last few months, been putting the marriage first instead of catering to SD's never-ending attention seeking, "poor me" behavior. SD lives with us full time and is a gigantic trainwreck, nightmare, toxic ball of mess and as you all can imagine the drama NEVER ends.

So yesterday, DH calls and says he is taking SD to the T-Mobile store to get a replacement phone because hers is broken (for the umpteenth time). Ok...for whatever reason they can't get one right then. A little later I hear SD come in the kitchen crying about to DH about something. After a while, DH says to me he thinks he will go to the store for some ice cream, do you want some blah, blah, blah - I'm getting some familiar vibes here. He says he's going to take SD because she was really hurt over some BM crap, ugh. Now, he was occupied with either SD or the laptop since we had been home from work and we spent pretty much no time together. Yet he went out of his way to take drama ridden SD to the store? Later on it's after 11pm and we are in bed, DH is asleep and I'm on the laptop now. SD knocks on the door and DH gets up to see what she wants. "Dad, something in the garage is making a beeping noise...make it stop! Turns out it's the washer and he goes and stops it...it would never occur to her to figure that out herself :? WTF ever.

This morning we get up and I ask DH what is going on today, casual conversation stuff. He says nothing, but my SD radar is fully engaged - I know something is up. SD has just gotten a job at Sea World and is due to start any day. BM was supposed to take SD today to get her uniform straightened out then BM, SD and SF were going out to dinner after. SF called SD yesterday and said they couldn't take SD out to dinner after all, they were taking someone in his family instead. Yes, that is a sh*tty thing to do...but SD hugely exaggerates everything so don't know if it went down just like that or not. Anyway, that is what all the crying drama was about. After some gentle prodding, DH admits that he is taking SD to Sea World "while I'm in the shower". He says this so it looks like I'm busy anyway, so he is not taking away from our time. Alright then - I ask why she cannot drive herself with her own vehicle...he says she only has enough gas to get to her job. He gets in the shower and gets all ready - like a date or something and I ask if he is going somewhere else. Well, they are going to stop by the T-Mobile store again...I see.

The thing is, yes SD has a lousy mom but SD has used this and a host of other things in her arsenal to make DH feel so guilty and sorry for her that he would cater to her at any expense, usually mine. Never have I known such a manipulative, malicious individual. I have put up with this stuff before to the point where I was thinking of leaving the relationship and will NOT go back to living that way!

Guess I will see how the rest of the day and weekend plays out, kinda on edge here wondering if things are backsliding. I know that I don't have it in me to keep fighting for the relationship after everything I have been through...it been A LOT of horrendous stuff and I'm tired

If you got through the entire post, thanks for reading - I know it's long