What's their custody arrangement? I know an ex couple with 50/50. They were married and divorced (not in MA) in the state where his family has been for generations. She met him when working in that state about 1500 miles away from her family.

So far (child is 8 ) the courts will not allow her to take the child back to her home state.

My husband has a 5 year old and his mother took him from nm to az for who knows exactly why. But the last three years have literally been hell when it comes to that situation. We maybe see him 2 to 3 times a year for a few days at a time. We have a 1 year old and one on the way of our own. SS knows he has brothers here but they dont know each other at all. Its hard on them all. We use to get to see him more and for longer periods of time but he started school and since then its holidays that we get to see him and thats hard because bm accuses us of him not being important in our lives and that we only think of him on holidays. We talk to him on the phone at least once a week and even if its not all of us on the phone his dad, my husband, is. My advice is fight fight fight and get a court order that states she can not leave the state with the kids. If its just to closer to her family thats not good enough. I love my family all of them but the only way i would let the kids go if i was in his shoes would be if it was for a huge for the better life altering situation like a huge job per motion or something like that.

My husband has a 5 year old and his mother took him from nm to az for who knows exactly why. But the last three years have literally been hell when it comes to that situation. We maybe see him 2 to 3 times a year for a few days at a time. We have a 1 year old and one on the way of our own. SS knows he has brothers here but they dont know each other at all. Its hard on them all. We use to get to see him more and for longer periods of time but he started school and since then its holidays that we get to see him and thats hard because bm accuses us of him not being important in our lives and that we only think of him on holidays. We talk to him on the phone at least once a week and even if its not all of us on the phone his dad, my husband, is. My advice is fight fight fight and get a court order that states she can not leave the state with the kids. If its just to closer to her family thats not good enough. I love my family all of them but the only way i would let the kids go if i was in his shoes would be if it was for a huge for the better life altering situation like a huge job per motion or something like that.

Perhaps she is doing this because she'll have a really good support system down there? I don't know, and guess a lot of it has to do with what kind of person she is. I'd advise this guy to get a co that spells everything out.

The wife of the couple that I mentioned earlier with 50/50 would like to be near all of her family. (and the boyfriend she cheated with during the marriage).

But for her to leave with the daughter would mean taking the child away from the father and all of his family, her school, her friends, etc. The paternal grandmother is very elderly and lives with them. If the child moved away she could have big adjustment problems.

I think it's good that the courts are finally taking into account what is best for the child not just allowing mothers to move across country. If the mother wants to move to her boyfriend she cannot take the child as it now stands. I don't know if the boyfriend even wants to marry her as his family was furious when they found out she was still married and her husband had no clue she had a boyfriend.

Not that many years ago the mother would automatically get to take the child no matter what.

An attorney told me that once a parent allows the other to move the child across a state border you have just lost any control you have for your child. An axample would lets say you live in Kansas City, Missouri. The ex wants to move the child to Kanses City, Kansas. Many people would say that wouldn't be to bad. Even though they are two different states the Cities are basically one and travel time is nil. But the ex now has it on record that she lives in a different state and if she decides she wants to move to Florida the chances are much better that she will be granted the move.