Met my husband in 01. At that time his kids were 1 and 4, and mine were 4 and 7. Everyone got along great. We moved in together in 02 into the house that he already had. At that time we were only getting his kids every other weekend but the bio mom and the kids lived across the road from us. The bio mom started to get into some bad things (cocaine, weed, drinking every night, taking the boys to the bar with her) We had decided to try for full custody. The bio mom received the papers and wanted to try to work things out with my husband (boy friend at the time) so I moved out. About 3 months later my husband contacted me saying it was a mistake and wanted me back. I then uprooted my kids again and moved back in with him and his ex moved back across the road. About 6 months later, his ex dropped his kids and her daughter, from a previous relationship, and said she needed to go shopping and will be back for them. She came back about 3 months later. I was then harassed by her, her parents and her brothers saying that I had no right to correct them, especially her daughter. I never laid a hand on any of them. I had to by them clothes and school items because she was nowhere to be found. My husband would never stand up for me. I put up with it for another year and decided it wasnt going to work so I uprooted my kids again and moved out. 5 months later he came crawling back saying that he loved me and wanted me to marry him and share our lives together and that we would move away from across the road from her. At this time all of the kids still got along(not only with each other but with the step parents) I loved his children like my own. If it wasnt for me, they would have stopped going to school like her daughter did. We then got married in July of 07. His ex had moved in with her drug dealer and the kids were with us full time but we still paid her child support. She had convinced her boys to steal from us and break things up in the house. We took her back again for full custody. Finally after 8 yrs of fighting for it, we got it. Shortly after, her boyfriend (drug dealer) over dosed on cocaine and she had to move back into her trailer across the road. After that she would call the kids saying she doesnt want to be by herself and she also sliced her wrist numerous times. She then had the kids go to my husbands family and say that I was abusing them, that I would make food for my kids and would only give them water, and when I told the oldest, at this time is 13, that he couldnt go to a concert I was being so mean to him. I got into an argument with my sister in law over this. I then moved back out again. We were still going to try to make things work between us but for the last year and a half I have been harassed by my husbands family sending my nasty text and pics. I was told that the only reason why I left him is because of him getting full custody. Now we have been talking about getting back together(fully together) He doesnt want me to move back in now because his boys said no. I dont feel I should have to let my life depend on what a 13 and 15 yr old say. I love him but I cant go on like this anymore. I thought a divorce would be the answer but he wont leave me alone. If I ignore his calls he stops over. If I lock the door he pounds and pound till I let him in. He says he loves me but why would you let your boys decide things. Hell I had uprooted my kids how many time for him but he cant do the same for me. Any suggestions?