stepcover's picture

I caught my Son and Stepdaughter of 5 months having sex

I happened upon this site and I really need help. I came home early from work today and found my 16 year old son and my 16 year old Stepdaughter in my basment having sexual relations. They are both in there rooms and I am waiting for my husband to get home from work so we can talk to them together. I have no idea what to do or say to them. My husband has stepdaughter in his custody due to the death of her mother so I can't send her there. I just don't know what to do. I feel sick.

fedup13's picture

Eeeeshk!!! That is bad. I

Eeeeshk!!! That is bad. I don't have any advice, just wanted to say sorry. When I was in high school, a couple in my hometown married. They both had multiple teenage children. The woman's son and the man's daughter started sneaking around and ended up marrying each other and having kids, not that this helps, but I thought it might make you feel a tad bit better momentarily to know this does happen to other people. Sad

dtzyblnd's picture

Exactly what Foxie said. You

Exactly what Foxie said. You have to remember that they don't consider themselves brother and sister in the way that you think they are. I mentioned this to someone else recently, research this issue because it's apparently quite common for step siblings in the situation you are in (recently steps and teenagers) to be sexually attracted to each other.

http://www.smartstepfamilies.com/view/stepsibling-romance
http://sfhelp.org/sf/co/qa.htm

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Stephen King has ruined your step children!
And I'm the reason some women don't have babies!
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hatemydad's picture

Wait until you and DH have

Wait until you and DH have both calmed down. Remind yourselves they are both responsible for this and hold them to it. Don't think that punishing them or scheduling activities will keep them from away from each other or tough love unless they have make you both grandparents. Stress birth control and have people you know take them to get it.

ownpersonalopinion1's picture

ok. Your not alone. It

ok. Your not alone. It happens.

My next door neighbors are married and were step siblings at one time.

Educate them about birth control.asap

Doesnteatcrow's picture

you need a drink

you need a drink

oldone's picture

If she isn't on extremely

If she isn't on extremely reliable birth control take her to get the morning after pill now.

Convulsive's picture

Send your son away. Since Dad

Send your son away. Since Dad has his daughter with nowhere else to go & you obviously want them separated, send your kid to his Dad's.

When you see the ridiculousness of your initial thought to send your husband's kid away, THAT is when you're calm & rational enough to talk to these 2.

stepcover's picture

To clarify I said that just

To clarify I said that just in the case that someone adviced me to do that not because that is how I feel. I am still waiting on my husband to arrive. Thank you for your advice.

oldone's picture

It's going to make family

It's going to make family reunions years from now really icky. Imagine having to spend every holiday with your ex lover.

Lalena75's picture

My cousin and her step

My cousin and her step brother apparently um yeah got themselves in the same boat, it had apparently been going on for awhile till someone at school found out (another classmate) the shame put a huge kabosh on things as they may not be really siblings but some kids do see it as ick taboo and the potential for some serious bullying is there. I can't give you any new or different adivce than you've already been given, just that it does happen.

I am not an option

Jsmom's picture

This would freak me out to.

This would freak me out to. Just calm down and be rational with them. I would consider moving out since my son is my priority. But, it depends on the character of your step daughter. If they have feelings for each other, you need to set limits. Now I can't stand my SD, so I would stop this completely. Depends on how you feel about her.

misSTEP's picture

You know, I'd think this was

You know, I'd think this was a crew but we had a snow day yesterday and I got to see a talk show where the girl's stepbrother was the father of her second baby...so, I got nothing.

Give these psycho BMs an inch and they will take 10 miles and complain that you didn't give them MORE.