I dated my Husband for 8 years before we married. I had know him, his first wife and their 3 kids before the kids were ever born. I didn't have anything to do with his divorce (she cheated on him). I took my time when we were dating--thought I vetted the decision out well. I love him very much. BM kicked oldest son out of her home 1 month before we got married--we got married and that child who was 15 when we married won't talk to me--he is 18 now--has zero responsibility---this kid hides all his dirty dishes under his bed--when my husband found them and brought them downstairs he cleaned them and put them in the dishwasher--but would not say anything to the kid--my husband doesn't like conflict.......but oh jesus I am just so frustrated with the situation--i don't even want to come home anymore----i can't even move the furniture around without it being a big fucking ordeal--again--i never saw any of this when we were dating.....so disgusted and feeling mighty hopeless. after we were married--i had to help him clean all ex wife's stuff out of the home we now share.......still can't get the walls repainted in the house--they have crayon marks on them (he thinks it is cute and reminds him when his kids were little).....I'm not a heartless bitch--I'm the mother of 4 adult children (25-29 years of age)--I just don't have much compassion for lazy brats with no manners. his kids are 18, 16, 14--none of them say hello when they come to the house--he doesn't tell them to and I have expressed how uncomfortable i feel--he does nothing! Thanks for listening to me whine--I feel that this is the community that will understand......