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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Fri, 03/01/2013 - 4:13pm

Today is my birthday. My morning startedout rough and I was crying b/c I miss my parents who used to always call me and sing to me on my special day no matter what they were doing or what I was doing or where in life, I could count on them acknowledging my day! Well they've both passed away in the past 3 years so no more phone calls.

Anyways so my older sis send me a link to a song called "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to"... and it cheered me up.

Then DH pipes up and says to meet him at my fav place for Fish n Chips. He said he'd text me when he could be there but to just go fter work at 1pm. So I am there waiting and texting him and he doesn't respond til just a few minutes ago. I drive home in the meanwhile and my last text was I'm home. He says he'll be home soon just wrapping up the day. I say no problem how long and he says soon. So I am waiting for a few minutes then I say never mind I am not hungry anymore so he says ok later a movie, I say no don't bother I'll catch a movie alone cuz I don't want to put you out or anything. He says ok enjoy the movie. I respond with typical guy.

I mean, I guess he is just letting me do what I say I wanna do but what I really want is for him to say "no I said I was going to take you out so I am going to take you out, sit tight I'll be there in a few minutes and we'll go out to eat AND a movie" You know? But guys just don't get us girls and us girls are always so vague I guess, or at least me. I want it to be his idea and not mine cuz then it feels like I am pushing for a birthday surprise. It was his idea to begin with and then he dropped it and now he thinks he's off the hook?

I don't know...men. ARG

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Submitted by kaikicking on Fri, 03/01/2013 - 4:47pm

Tell him what you want don't make him guess. Men are clueless to our it is fine when it really is not.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 03/01/2013 - 4:48pm

Awwww Happy Birthday Honey! So sorry about your parents.

Any way you can call up a girlfriend and go out on the town since DH is being a douche canoe?

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Fri, 03/01/2013 - 9:59pm

Happy Birthday. Sorry about the loss of your parents and that your DH was a dick today.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 9:16am

I think you should tell him exactly what you want. No one can read minds.

In my case Christmas Day is 'no big deal' to DH because he had never had what I consider a normal Christmas, with gifts and family. We had so many fights actually on Christmas, which really broke my heart even more.

So I told him exactly what I need on that day, special breakfast, open gifts that morning while playing Christmas carols, then on to special meal w family. So now we do that.. working toward Christmas Eve candle service and stockings.

It sounds stupid because he should absolutely know. But just in case he was raised in a barn by heathens LOL, tell him exactly what you expect for bday, then don't let him off the hook until he does it!! Reward successive approximations though.

My birthday secret is to buy myself, exactly what I want. So go treat yourself and Happy Birthday!!! Hugs

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 11:34am

He did finally get home and after talking and me stating my mind to the letter, I said "I want fish n chips and a drink and then I want to nap and then watch a movie", he took me out and I got my fish n chips and a free cocktail and came home for a nap and didn't make supper for the boys, they made their own and we watched a movie. Yes he was a dick and his excuse was he was working and that is what I usually want him to do, lol, he's right b/c he was unemployed for a LOOONG time, so it all turned out ok. But my day was not the best but today is a new day.

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Submitted by porcelian-doll on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 11:39am

I'mappy he atleast did something for you. and Happy belated birthday ! Biggrin

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Submitted by z3girl on Sat, 03/02/2013 - 5:08pm

Happy Birthday!

I'm glad to hear that it turned out ok!

My DH was horrible on mine a few weeks ago. He didn't buy a gift, I had to make dinner and clean up the dishes. He said once "Oh, btw Happy Birthday". I'm still mad at him about it.

I guess I need to have the talk with him that he needs to step it up and at least treat me better on that one day. I go out of my way for him on his, so it's only nice and fair to do the same. Last year he was great, this year not... Sad