a child support question
Hi all, I have an interesting question. Bs has gone to Job Corps, it's a federally funded career training college. Well he is not yet 18 yrs old so he is a minor and still needs things like clothes, cash sent for snacks and things. I spent almost $1,000.00 on him before he left last month on clothes, duffle bag, shoes, gloves, you name it he needed it. I didn't mind. Ok so here's the question, my ex is now wanting to take me to court to have the child support changed b/c he feels like now bs is out on his own and not needing our support anymore. Bs is going to be 18 in 5 months so I am thinking he should suck it up and just pay b/c to go to court and pay attorney costs is going to cost both him and me more then the support. So do you all think he will actually win if we go to court and I'll have to pay back support. I am asking my attorney to have him pay his costs as well since this is his idea and not mine.
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Is he still considered "in
Is he still considered "in high school"? If this is still considered a high school program, then he has to pay, most likely (depending on your state). If he is done with high school, he might not have to pay. And, he likely wouldn't even need to take you to court - he can request a modification and it will either get approved or denied.
Our court order says: through the age of 18 or while still in high school with a maximum age of 19. So - for dumbass SS it will be until he's 19 because he'll likely fail at least a grade or 2.
Is that basically like the
Is that basically like the military? If so, he could argue that you aren't supporting BS. He *could* be ordered to pay BS directly.
Just out of curiosity, if your son isn't living with you, why do you think you're entitled to your XH's money?
If Bioson isn't living with
If Bioson isn't living with you, then perhaps you should have him pay the child support directly to bs.
I don't know your ex, but he could fight you on it. If he does them it may end up costing you more in attorneys fees (if it is ruled in his favor then your attorneys fees are yours to pay) then it would have just coming up with a solution between yourselves.
Should he suck it up, probably. I know that most on here would be doing a happy dance knowing their dh only have 5 months left to pay cs.
If it were me, I would do what was in the best interest of my kid. I would tell him I wouldn't go after him he could verifiably send the cs directly to bs. That way all the funds go to bs instead of lawyers who would be more then happy to hash this out in court, for a considerable fee.
And if things don't go your way, then you may have to pay him back for the time that your son hasn't been living with you. You never know with the courts!
From what I used to
From what I used to understand about job corps is that it is a federal program for young people who have usually been in a lot of trouble. It teaches them job skills and life skills. It is not any kind of college.
I read a blog somewhere and the kid was in something like job corps. (not sure if it was or not). And the courts made each parent pay CS to the program. Sounds fair to me.
Thanks everyone. I wrote my
Thanks everyone. I wrote my attorney and told him that 5 measley months is not worth the money to fight. Exh does not have an attorney so all of his correspodense with my attorney is being put on MY bill. I told my atty to send a bill to ex h for the last set of emails b/c I am not going to let that sub human of an ex ruin my life and finances anymore.
Yes, Job Corps is for low income families and that is us, and it's for kids to learn job skills. But it's not the same as it used to be, you now have to be a pretty darn smart kid to get in with no drug/alcohol issues. Bs17 lived with his dad for 3 years and hated it so much and it kinda ruined him, but I fought for custody for both bs 17 and 15 and for this past year they have gottan back on their feet and stablized emotionally. Living with ex h didn't negatively affect my youngest bs nearly as much or lets say he rebounded better then his older brother.
Bs17 did take his GED and passed without studying. So technically he is on his own now.
Ok, thx, I am ok with how things turn out and exh is once again off the hook.
In Virginia, CS has to be
In Virginia, CS has to be paid until a child is 18, or 19 if they are still in HS. So if you are getting CS through the enforcement dept. in your state, he will still owe it, and have arrears that will be collected eventually. Here, one can file with the court without an attorney, so if your state has similar laws, you can file to collect it yourself. But I totally know how great it would feel to stop dealing with your ex, and just move on.
I reread your question, and I
I reread your question, and I don't think there is any way you would owe back support if he continued to pay, and if he has to go to court to stop the CS, then there is a CO requiring that he pay it, so the court will be involved one way or another. But you don't need to pay an attorney.