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carrielostandconfused's picture

I married my husband 2 yrs ago. We have his son living with us and my Bio children. My step son has been living g wit fulltime since June 1. Because his mom I guess is going through her mid life crisis. She has failed to maintain any type of healthy relationship wit the boy, she calls pissed off when she's drunk and complains bout how bad her life is and how she deserves all this respect from my husband just because she is my husbands sons mother. She will tell me things like my husband loved her more than he ever will me and that he does love her and he just need to be honest wit me. She tells my step son that im a drugie and my husband is also. We've had our problems in the past but are now clean from drugs and might have a drink or 2 on acasion. Not a habit at all. She gets very angry when my step son calls me mom. She yells and screams at him and I have to make him call her. Since we live 1300 miles apart I understand that she is worried bout her son but if she'd been there being the mom she's posed to be he wouldn't be here. She hates me and the only thing I've ever done to her to try n tell her its not right to put him in the middle of adult problems. And if she doesn't like me so be it but the child doesn't need to hear her opinion on me. He has serious trust issues wit her and knows exactly how evil his bm is. He wants me to adopt him and doesn't even care to go back to AZ to even visit her. This breaks my heart and I really don't know how much more I can handle when it comes to her being so rude to her son that I am raising cause dad works long hard hours on 2nd shift. I have on occasion had to bite her head off and tell her I will not tolerate her treating her son like that way shes rude hateful and very demanding wit my husband like he owes her something. Im very furstated wit her mouth , opinions, shitty attitude, lack of respect for anyone in her sons now home, WHAT DO I DO?

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notagain2012's picture

My best suggestion, is that unless she is playing nice, hang up or ignore her calls. When she can call and act Like an adult, and talk to her son, then let her. Otherwise, she will keep attacking you, DH and upsetting SS.

She can be angry, hateful and jealous, but you don't HAVE to listen to it. And SS doesn't HAVE to be put in the middle, or even on the phone.

tryingmom's picture

Yup, demanding respect works. SMH. What is it with BM's demanding respect when their actions make it very difficult? :?