You are here

Why not just let her tell us when we can wake up, or eat dinner, or wash our clothes!!!

momsome's picture

ok so I just posted something about the BM...butttt she is at it again.
She loves sending messages through my step kids, to tell their dad. She tells my step kids that she is going to drop them off early on Sunday because she is having a super bowl party and the super bowl is going to be over late. Keep in mind the normal drop of time is at 6pm So that she is going to drop them off at our house. (my step kids are excited because they want to come home early any way, like they want to every weekend at their moms)

OK so I had to tell my boyfriend to text her and find out, Because we are trying to have a small get together for the super bowl. So the text sent to her says. "Hey I need your new address and I need to talk to you about Sunday, The kids told me you were dropping them off early at our house"

She replies " This isnt the number you gave me to send you my address but here it is..blah blah blah...

Her next response says, And yes we are meeting at the meeting spot at 12:30 on sunday because we are going to church first. (the Normal meeting time is at 6) and my boyfriend usually has to find a ride because I am coming home from work around that time. So our neighbor takes him. notice how she doesn't ask and just demands.

Her Next Response says "the boys need to call me everyday". "I keep calling but there is not answer". (we cant tell her that the boys dont want to talk to her, they cry when they have to call her and dont say much on the phone when she calls).

at the end of the day its me that's holding them wiping away their tears because of something she has done. I am so fed up with her making demands and changing our plans to make her happy...She has done this the entire time I've been in the picture. If we plan a family trip she will do something to change it.

The biggest part of it all is now me and my boyfriend are fighting simply because I feel like either she can drive her A** all the way out here to drop them off or meet at 6pm. I want nothing more than to have the boys home having fun watching the game with us. But I dont want to jump to her commands any more!!..if this is what I have to look forward to I dont think it will work with my boyfriend and I

I mean his argument is, who cares we get the boys back early isnt that what we want?...and of course it is I TRULY Love my boys I feel so lucky of the relationship we have, there has never been a moment were I felt like they are not my children or like I am not close with them.

I just cant stand how we have to jump to her every command I mean even the boys say things like "oh no if we do that then mom will take you guys back to court"

I can promise you the moment we dont do what she is asking we will be right back in court fighting over something she has either made up or just to do something....she does that about every year!!!

Comments

Gabriels Mom's picture

If the court ordered time is pick up at 6pm then y'all need to meet her at 6pm...IF she just absolutely has to bring them home early, she can bring them all the way to your house. If he does not start putting his foot down about these things now it'll only get worse...

momsome's picture

yes but his argument is that the kids will suffer (which is true)..then he asks me do you want them to come home?...I give him the most evil look I could put on my face he knows that I want them home. I would rather them be here then there. But I dont want BM thinking that whenever she wants something we give in not to mention if we keep letting the boys come home they are going to start thinking that they can come home every time early if they dont want to be there and when they call freaking out and crying, my boyfriend goes through serious depression then I am stuck trying to be strong for everyone and if I fall apart its over. Its just stressful and I Need to worry about my health as well. it sucks being a SM not being able to do anything about things that effect your life I feel like a kid!!