I should have come to grips with the fact that there is no equality in step-parenting. I don't know why I even let it get to me anymore. I love my SD with all my heart, care for her as though she is my own, respect her birth mother as much as I can...sometimes even to my own peril.

Why would something as miniscule as not being tagged in FB photos bother me? Perhaps because I am the one who recruited and hired the babysitter who posted them. It shouldn't be a big deal...right? Then why when I request a specific bedtime does she disregard me? Why does she take a slew of pictures and tag both my hubby and her mother but not me? We are an amicable 50/50 custody family. Her mother is a bartender and works every Saturday and Sunday nights...most Friday nights. If we ever need a night out, or if we have a music gig we need a sitter. Her mom doesn't want to put the money into baby-sitters so she'll find whatever friend will take them for free. Sometimes this is okay, but I wanted someone who would spend time with her. Form a relationship with her. Someone I could call on and feel okay about leaving her with. I'm happy to pay for that assurance and peace of mind. As if I don't get enough grief trying to keep the peace I feel little to no respect from the babysitter.