My SS is out of control he is 4 and has no remorse for anyone, does not care if his toys get taken away, time outs do nothing bur make the rest of the day hard, and he laughs when you spank him. If Trident bribery and a reward system for doing things like no peeing his pants which happens 2 times a day almost every day. When u ask him to not do something he completely shuts down won't walk won't talk won't move and he will stand that way for hours I've timed it and the record is 2.5 hours. We have gone to the doctor's gone to therapist, tried to get help from specialist on ways for us to be calm and his to better deal with this. He calls me mom but tells his dad he is mean to me on purpose and he tries to make me leave. His Bio mom has no custody and has not seen or spoken to him in over a year. My SS grand parents. Do not support our punishment or reword system and let him do what ever thus would not be such h a problem if we hadn't lived with them for a while. His grandma tells him to do the opposite of what I say won't put him down for naps lets him stay up till 12am and wake up at 5! I am at my breaking point. His dad and I have been fighting about this for a while. His Bio dad works from 7:30 to 4:00 and when he gets home has no hand in cooking or discipline or my SS nightly ruteen. He will step in and help after a fight but that only last for a week or so. My SS and I are together 24/7 and when I need a break my SS family makes me feel like a bad mom and talks down to me or tells me I'm selfish. My fiancées brother calls me a c**t and a b**ch in front of my step son and my SS grandma does nothing about it because I instigate it because I won't cook or clean up after them anymore. I lost my Job in June and my SS family asked y to stay at home with my SS instead if work now they are upset because I have no income coming in! I'm so stressed and over whelmed I don't sleep at night I don't ever feel good. I love my SS and my fiance but I'm starting to have second thoughts and am noticing that I don't want to be around them any more! Any words of advice or encouragement would be helpful. I'm just glad I'm not alone in feeling this way I was worried something was wrong with me and have been feeling alone!