I truly enjoy coming to this site, although I don't post alot. I come almost everyday and read, and just by reading what others go thru and how they deal with it,I get some good insight into ways of dealing with my personal situation. But I must say I am very discouraged to see the way people are becoming afraid to post and how people are lashing out at each other, we are all here for pretty much the same reasons.

I have been married for 2 1/2 years and the first 2 were hell for me, and many would say get out if you are that miserable, but you see for me it is not that easy. I made a life long commitment to the man I love, and yes I knew that when I married him he had children and they would become a part of my life as well, and this commitment doesn't come lightly. Through these years I must say I have learned alot and put to practice things I have learned.

It was sad to see that BBB doesn't feel as comfortable posting. I believe that she wants to make things work in her home, but she can't sit by and just let sd and her dh keep acting this way. At some point sd needs to come responsible for her actions and her dh needs to learn to come to a compromise. BBB not posting is a loss for me, because I must say by reading her ideas and feelings, I have learned and put somethings to practice in my own situation.

All of the bickering and lashing out is becoming really old and that is not what DAWN and her husband created this site for. Yes I agree we all are not always going to agree, but we need to understand that some people just vocalize in different ways, maybe not all are the best ways but at least we can put it here.

Each of us come from different backgrounds, different regions, and we all want to make our lives as stepparents better. What some believe is wrong and some belive is right. We should all remember that when respond to someones post.

I also changed my username from stepmommyevil. I thought yesican says more about how I feel now a days than I use to.