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Smarter Than I Thought

TheOtherMom's picture

Well I just read some blogs about the Easter Bunny and all those fairy tale characters and it made me think of some things such as perhaps DH and I REALLY ARE horrible parents.

When SS11 and SS9 were SS7 and SS5, we told them the truth about everything, Santa Clause, Easter Bunny, all of it. They didn't get it at first so we didn't push them. They caught on at the end but not because we pushed it. We laid the foundation and let it happen.

MAN! We caught hell from the family. MIL was livid. BM said DH was a monster. Etc.

Looking back, I still feel like it was the right thing to do because we don't lie to them and they know this.

Which brings me to the point of this blog even though today has been EXCELLENT.
SS9 called his mother a liar about twenty minutes ago which I REALLY BIT MY TONGUE ABOUT. I didn't respond at all to it which is bad I think.

BM does not want the skids to communicate on Skype or any of those other video phone things when they visit because it is "her" time. I understand this but he wants to see them and know they are physically okay. So she told him and the kids that her computer is too slow and they just have to talk on the phone instead.

DH bought a new laptop for them to use up there. It auto detects the modem etc. No excuses.

I showed SS9 how to use the laptop so when he is up there BM can let him talk to DH on Skype or whatever. SS9 said "There is nothing wrong with her computer. She is lying." He didn't stutter or anything ... I can't bring myself to lie about her but I can't talk badly about her so I didn't say a thing. Yet, I feel guilty.

We don't give our children enough credit. They see things that we think they don't ...

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TheOtherMom's picture

Thank you. And I have to say, I agree with you there. Step families have so much to lose and honesty HAS to be the foundation or else, its just a bunch of people of various ages living together.

leladawn's picture

This post was a good one to read tonight. Its so hard sometimes because we can't ever truly know what's going through their little minds, and kids ARE smart! Even though they're so confused, if they don't see things right now, hopefully one day...

And I agree, honesty is always the best thing. I can relate with having to bite my tongue too though

"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy

TheOtherMom's picture

SBS,
First off, thanks for the laugh!
Anything is possible. If these characters physically exist, peachy. I want proof and I believe the kids are smart enough to want proof as well. This also spins off of why we are not religious ... but I shall save this for another day. Smile