So SS24 and SS18 just called DH to ask what his thoughts are surrounding polygamy. I overheard DH go into this elaborate explanation of "if a man can afford it, and the women are accepting, then it's okay". 

For some reason, it annoyed me. I felt as though DH has no background/experience in that arena, so he should have spoken to them from what he DOES know, which to me should have been "IDK much about that lifestyle, but what I CAN share is that I did xyz in the past which made me unhappy and I did xyz now, and I'm okay". 

I think I should add that SS24 is a bit of a narcissist and has always wanted to live a polygamous lifestyle (not for religious reasons, he just wants multiple women in my opinion). SS18 always disdained him for this and he is why I know about this. I guess they got into it and asked DH for his opinion. In my opinion, DH should have asked WHY they were asking about this. And then if SS24 decided to admit he is for the polygamous lifestyle, DH should have told him that once he's able to support the family he has now, then MAYBE he could consider it (with his BM's approval of course). 

Also, I don't know why but for me it just chapped my ass that it was an opportunity for DH to school SS on manhood (and I hoped he would say that having one intact family is a lot of work), but it feels like he just dropped the ball and went with the typical fantasy guy answer, which was "if they agree to it and you can afford it why not?". I had to remind DH that he has 4 kids, with 3 different women and his first 2 are not much to be proud of, 3rd one he has barely anything to do with. Being polygamous and creating kids with multiple women means you have to divice your resources/time among different families so the quality of your husbanding/parenting is divided by x amount of kids/women. 

We were having an otherwise decent day, until his kids called, and he entertained their dumb questions (no offense to polygamists, it's just that I know SS24 isn't into it for the 'right' reasons).