Is it bad that it makes me so happy when I can ruin BM's plans - which she always makes at the last minute?

She called BF yesterday to talk about Halloween (they had already talked about it a little before and kind of had a plan in place). I LOVE Halloween and BF knew that I wanted to dress up and pass out candy at the house, since BM wanted to take the kids trick or treating it was seemingly going to work out even though it was our 'week' to have them. Well BF's home town is having trick or treat Saturday so he had asked awhile back if he could have them for a few hours on Saturday if she was going to have them for a few hours on Monday. Seems logical - right?

She called yesterday with a NEW plan. She wanted BF and I to keep the kids Saturday night and then she would keep them Sunday night - so that she could take them to school because if you remember in a post I put the SS6 had 'magically' been selected to bring in a sweet snack to school on Monday and she IS making Cup Cakes for the class, even though it's our week and she flipped out last year when we did that to her (provided the class treats on her week). ::insert eye roll::

She added that her cousin was getting married and she had to go to another town to try on dresses with her Saturday. So she was probably wanting to go out partying afterwards. Meanwhile her new husband is stuck in town working a charity thing for a place he volunteers for.

Any way BF told her NO! Which surprised me. But BF knows that I LOVE Halloween and we have had plans to go to a charity costume party late Saturday night for weeks. He told her that we already had plans for Saturday Night and she pouted. Usually we would take them but not at the last minute like this and not when we have plans. It sucks but BM needs to realize that she is a Mother first and party goer second.

Maybe it's just me but what would BM do if they were still married and/or she had the kids full-time? Hire a baby sitter all the time (which we think she does a lot on her weeks any way). She is always going some where. BF and I on the other hand rarely go out, which is why I am so pumped about the party tomorrow night, but we always plan around the kids and when we have one of our own we probably won't go out any more or less. Getting a baby sitter once and while is not BAD but all the time is a little crazy.

I am letting BF handle it but if BM still wanted to take them Sunday night, that would be OK with me Through I was hoping to have the kids here Monday when I slip into my costume because it's creepy looking but if they SEE me put it on it won't freak them out as much.