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queenofthedamned's picture

My sweet, sweet FDH tries so hard to be understanding of my peculiar circumstances (childless-not-by-choice, nearing 36 SM) but sometimes he just. doesn’t. get it.

He wants to take the skids on a quick road trip next weekend. He thinks I’m about to be as excited as he is.
I think it sounds like torture, playing pseudofamily and stuffing the four of us in one hotel room for a whole weekend. No escape when the skids get on my nerves.

I think it sounds shitty since I have been DYING to get away somewhere just the two of us (we never have), and the last “vacation” I had consisted of driving 18+ hours with the skids to visit my family, and sleeping on my mom’s living room floor for a week. Sounds relaxing, no?

I think finding someone to take care of our dogs at the last minute like this is impossible, so I’ll use my furbabies as an excuse to stay home alone while he goes and plays with his human kids.

I think he’s going to be severely disappointed that I am not brimming with excitement and bouncing around like a puppy at the thought of being locked in a small room with his spawn for two nights. Oh well. I’ve told him before, if he wanted someone to be as excited about spending every last drop of her free time with the skids as he is, he should’ve stayed with their mom. They’re not my kids, and the annoying things they do aren’t clouded over by the rose colored glasses of parenthood. They’re just annoying.

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queenofthedamned's picture

he must have read here or something.... just sent me a text about planning a getaway for the two of us for the next skid free weekend....

dragonfly5's picture

Yes, yes, I understand. DH just had the kids for 6 weeks. I went out with the girls twice as much, took long baths, needed to run errans, etc.

Yes, we did the weekend away with the skids and I offered to pay for another room. Just so that I didn't have to endure 3 days of endless....kids stuff in my space.

I also tell my DH the truth. You knew when you met me I was over the kid thing. I was totally honest with you. Mine is grown and an adult. So if you wanted someone one who wanted kid time you should not have married me.

I pick and choose what I do with them. I say no a lot.

Your dogs need someone to look after them Smile

bearcub25's picture

Yep, you have to just be honest no matter how much it hurts.

I told DSO the same thing DF5. I did the sports, family get a ways and planning fun stuff. I was burnt out. Took awhile but he finally got it thru his thick head.

furkidsforme's picture

"I’ve told him before, if he wanted someone to be as excited about spending every last drop of her free time with the skids as he is, he should’ve stayed with their mom."
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
No truer words were EVER spoken.

My DH of 12 years knows I barely tolerate his three kids. And yet, he still pulls the "I have a great idea- let's rent an RV and ALL go on a road trip!!!!" bullshit. And then he was mad when I replied "That sounds like hell to me."