What to do about SS stealing/breaking/losing my stuff

I am so sick of SS getting into everything. He is constantly wrecking my stuff (ex. face cream, gloves, hat, money, pens, etc) and then lying about it. He gets this stupid look on his face when I call him out on it. It makes my blood boil. Why do I have to live like this. Nothing of mine is sacred. I know I can keep a lock and key to my bedroom and hide my important stuff in there, but I'm not going to do that with things like face cream, office supplies, food, etc. I can get a little possessive about my stuff. But I think that's normal, right? I've told DH and all he says is "well, you didn't actually see him do it, so you can't prove it." Well obviously, SS is sneaky and does things behind our backs, you think he would steal and mess with your stuff right in front of you? He's a terror, but he's not stupid.
The only way we could catch SS doing something is if we monitor him 24/7 and I'm not going to waste my time.

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Get some cameras, then do a

Get some cameras, then do a playback for Ss and dh.

Why would a 9ish year old

Why would a 9ish year old want with your face cream, woman's glove ect? Sounds as if he's angry at you and deliberately messing with your stuff as a revenge thing.

Don't leave money laying around if it keeps being stolen and give the kid a drawer with cheap dollar store office supplies for his homework or whatever. Keep the good stuff off limits. Whether DH believes SS 'did' it or not DH still has the responsibility to inform the kid to use SS's provided items and not yours.

Should you have to lock everything up as if you live with a little thief? One that can't be trusted to keep out of this and that? No, but you have the choice of securing your things or keep playing the 'game' with SS based on principal of a belief. Which is going to give you more peace of mind and help your household less stressful for you. If a lock on a drawer, a locked cupboard and a few secret hiding places assures the temptation can't overtake SS and since his father won't put a stop to it, well, then secure your things whether you should 'have to' or not.

If you really want to catch the kid inaction set up a video cam. But even if proof and the culprit clearly shown, is DH going to finally put a stop to the actions?

well, you didn't actually see

well, you didn't actually see him do it, so you can't prove it."

I want to throat punch your DH for this stupid statement, just like I want to throat punch my DH for the same stupid statement. A couple of years ago, SD15 stole clothes from me, it wasn't just once, it was at least 2 separate occasions. There was literally NO other explanation for the missing clothes other than SS14 is a secret cross-dresser and HE? took them because I am very neat and organized and don't leave my clothes all over and there was nobody else in our house that could have taken them. DH reamed me for even gently suggesting that she might have taken them by mistake, THEN a year later, she tried to sell her cell phone, it got confiscated and returned to me and while going through her phone, we found pics of MY missing clothes that she was trying to sell on Craigslist.

STILL DH won't admit that she stole my clothes, because nobody actually saw her do it. WTF ever.