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Bm telling Ss he has 2 last name, opinions?

msg1986's picture

This past friday when I got home from work I noticed there was a magazine sitting on the counter. It was unfamiliar so I picked it up and asked Dh where it came from. Dh casually said "Oh Bm sent it with Ss" I didn't think much of it and leafed through the magazine. it was some nature magazine for kids and on the back there was a beautiful picture of a n animal. Well, while looking at the picture I noticed that the name on the subscription was listed with Ss's first name but instead of Dh's/our last name, it had Bm's last name. I thought it was strange and asked Ss "hey, how come this say *insert Ss's first name* *insert Bm's maiden name*?" and he says "oh, that's just because I am *insert Ss's first name* *insert dh's last name* when I'm at this house and I'm *insert ss's first name* *insert Bm's maiden name* at my mommys." and goes back to playing with his toys. :?

Ss's legal last name is Dh's last name, always has been. Dh asked him more about it after explaining to Ss that he only has 1 last name and Ss said that his mom doesn't like to say Dh's last name at her house because "she doesn't like that last name" SS seemed confused by the whole thing but said 'oh okay"... Woo-hoo Bm, way to confuse your kid, first you're telling him he has 2 bio fathers and now telling him he has 2 last names... one of the by the way you're going to be changing after you get married in a month...

Court is next week and we still have the magazine at our house as Ss forgot it. Should Dh bring this up to his lawyer? Is it petty to address this in court? Dh is pretty bothered by it and feels like Bm purposely sent the magazine over for him to see... Thoughts?

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Unfreakingreal's picture

It is PAS and you most definitely should bring it up in court. I know I would. What a dumb bitch.

msg1986's picture

Thank you for your thoughts, I will bring this up to Dh tonight. I don't understand why she would try to make Ss feel bad about his own last name.

msg1986's picture

Thank you Echo! I also want to kick her in the a$$! I wish Bm was mature enough to realize that by bashing Dh's last name, she's bashing her son. Sad It's so sad for him. I don't know if the judge will/can do anything about it but at least they can mention it and advise her it's not okay for her to do that.

msg1986's picture

Thank you for the comment. I agree, very very confusing for Ss. I don't know why Bm would think this is okay... ugh.

msg1986's picture

Okay, Thank you, I just wasn't sure. We will def take a picture and bring it up to the attorney before court next week. Thank again Ripley for your thoughts, I appreciate it. Smile

msg1986's picture

Oh yeah, Dh was pretty livid about that one. Do you think Dh should bring that up as well even though there isn't really "proof" so to speak? We have the date and time Ss told us that because we write everything down but I don't know how we could even prove that Ss said that.

misSTEP's picture

Definitely have it put into the CO that only the bio-parents have to be called Mom or Dad.

Jsmom's picture

DH has that in his CO. This is PAS at its finest. Lawyer needs to bring it up and she needs to be shut down on this. This kid is going to have identity issues.

msg1986's picture

They are! I don't just don't get it. If you didn't want the kid to have that last name, you shouldn't have given it to them. Bm and DH were not married when Ss was born therefore Bm could have given her last name if it was such a big deal. Good grief!!!

Glassslipper's picture

Bring that to the lawyer for sure!
Good catch seeing it there on the magazine and for keeping!

notarelative's picture

School records, state tests,and report cards have to be in the legal name. Daily work not so much. Many kids use nicknames and as long as the teacher is aware it's fine.
I've seen kids who are in the process of being adopted who use their new name on daily work before the adoption is final.

WTF...REALLY's picture

Hi ho hi ho...its off the court the magazine goes. What a horrible mother. That BM is an idiot and is doing her child no favors. Burn her ass with more proof.