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I'm Fighting this Battlle

lisa510's picture

So, I recently put up my money (I earned it alone) to help add a two car garage and a bigger master bedroom to my DH's existing home. The plan: I put up the money, we do a cash, put my name on the deed, take the money from the cash out to compensate what I spent.

1. I know some of you may think I'm an idiot for putting my money in without being on the deed. You're right! I should've thought this through more carefully. .

2. SS22 lives here with us in his own room. Obviously, I want him out.

a. He's a slob. Doesn't clean his room.
b. His girlfriend spends every weekend with him in his existing room. Gross.
c. He doesn't do anything around the house (mow lawn, take out trash, clean garage, etc.)
d. He is in his last year of college.
e. He has a part time job.
f. He's not saving any money to move out.

3. DH says SS22 can have the old master bedroom when we move into new master bedroom.

4. My bio sons (19 and 16) don't have a room. They stay in the living room when they stay over.

I want to make the old master bedroom a room for my biosons and put a desk in that room where I can work. DH did bring up making it a room for SS22, and much to my own dismay, I didn't oppose. I stayed silent because I'm an idiot.

It takes me a while to think things through; and when my DH proposes things to me, if I don't feel comfortable about it, I stay silent. Then my silence bites me in the ass!!

But I think the room is for me to set up for my office and a spare bedroom for my sons. The skids have their own rooms. Much more, SS22 should be moving out, not over to a bigger room for his weekend motel.

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lisa510's picture

Well, I told him today. I put up the money for the new master bedroom and the 2 car garage, so why wouldn't I have a say as to what we do with the old master bedroom.

Of course, DH answers, "If you don't get what you want, then you're not happy." Hmmmmm....ummmm.. fucK YEAH!!

I told him he puts me and his 22 y/o son on the same level, and we're not! The son doesn't get to make decisions about what we do in the house. Furthermore, the garage was built for DH - a two car garage with my money. Soooo.....I think DH does get what he wants too!!!

I'm currently looking for a different place to live. I don't know if I'm gonna go through with it. We argued this morning about the stupid room and it just brings up a lot of bad feelings. DH has asked me on three occasions: "Do you want to leave?" Because I would have to leave as this is truly NOT my house. So I'm preparing myself financially; I may be on my own again!!!

But maybe I'll be happier. Maaaaayyyybeeee......