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Time for a BM smackdown and I am ready to rumble!!!!

lil_teapot's picture

Ok, so skankface emailed FH the other day and was pissed that ss14 was home sick at our house friday(as if it's her business) and that "i control the reins" so she can't have such "open lines of communciation" with FH anymore. She had the nerve to send this in an email, which I found in fh's email account.
I'm livid.
First, what goes on in our house is none of her business unless there's a serious injury. She knew he was sick because he was with her the previous day and he was sick there but she ignored him, sent him to school so we got him while he was sick. FH kept him home--his choice. BM has no right to be mad and she's made her whole email like "it wasn't like this before LT was around..." Its just infuriating.
Now, she's on to trying to make him talk to her more...that's b.s. I know she's just scheming because she's in a bad relationship and fh is treating me good and she's jealous. Plus I know she'd love to have him back just for fun to screw with our happiness. God I hate her!!!!
And her final thing was she's gonna kick us outta "her" house we live in. She's on the mortgage with him and he holds the deed so I don't know what that all means but he said before she can't do anything.
And she's demanding the 4 of them go to therapy together w/o me to fix "their family". I am flabbergasted!!!
I do homework, kiss booboos, feed them and take care of them....while she's not around and doesn't give a rats azz, but I'm some sort of homewrecker!!!! GGGGGRRRRRRR!!!! I'm livid!!!!
Well and here I was going to take the boys shopping to get the big C something for mother's day...that ain't happening now. I'm showing the email to fh tonight, letting him "explain" and then I'm going to my mom's. I'm sick to death of the drama!!!
Cut the BM loose, get our house back in OUR names, and be done with her. She's just all salty cuz she's a control freak and she's not able to control FH anymore.
I swear, I have an ulcer from all this stress. Time to change things like NOW!!! I'm not living like this anymore.
Wish me luck because today is gonna be one hell of a fight!!

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Endora's picture

of a weekend at your house!!!

Back to the good old Dog Whisperer tactics for BM's

RULES
BOUNDARIES
LIMITATIONS

Woof!

Hang in there and draw the lines on this woman!

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

BridgingTheGap's picture

I hope DH tells her to crawl back under her bridge and stay there!

What really gets me is that she wants therapy for "the family"... Um, did she not get the memo about her "family" no longer including your DH in it?

lil_teapot's picture

yeah, she walked out on her husband and kids for some old man lovin and now has the nerve to act like the wounded party plus toss in teh whole "i hope you'll put your kids first" shit!! That is absolutely laughable and I intend to email her back and say "gee, were you putting your kids first when you were screwing someone behind their father's back? And were you putting your kids first when you left them to go move in with an old man who hates them?"
She has such a paypack coming and I am soooo going to give it to her. She might scare fh but I am not afraid of that little skank

Sia's picture

so sorry you are going through this.  I missed something while I was away I guess.  The last I heard, you moved back into your apartment right?

kaffonseca's picture

just the title..I love WWE RAW..

Keep us posted!! that BM is loco. "family" therapy? well that should include you than!

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

FuBaR's picture

But yeah why is she on the mortgage and can she be taken off?? What goes on in YOUR house is YOUR and DH's business not that crazy bitch..SO hubby knew about the email and didnt show you, if so thats messed up on his part..And if you are like me soo sick of the well I did it, so I wouldnt upset you..You have every right to be livid as I would be the sameway..I hope everything works out for you this weekend, you really deserve better..

"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison

melis070179's picture

I don't think her DH has seen it yet...she's going to show it to him tonight.

"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"

FuBaR's picture

misread that..Sorry LT Hubby..

"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison

WowjustWow's picture

It never ends does it. They sit quiet for a few days or weeks and then the storm of the century comes crashing down.

DH needs to write the mortgage company and have her removed from the paperwork. You paying the bills is giving her credit a boost. Of course if you stopped paying the bills... j/k!

As for her being pissed about SS staying home sick, too bad, so sad for her. Especially right now, they don't want anyone sick being sent to school. Here, they will call a parent in a heartbeat and send the kids home if they are sniffling with all this Swine Flu crap.

She has no right to say what goes on when you all have the kids. We deal with this all the time. She can not like it all she wants, it doesn't change that.

As for the therapy. If she wants to go, fine. We did this and DH and BM and Skids went together once (without me), then the therapist separated who went when and DH and BM never went at the same time again, but I went with DH & skids. Have at it! It will just show one more person how whacked she is.

Hang in there hon!

melis070179's picture

They have to either refinance or sell the house to get her off the mortgage. My exH was on my mortgage as well, but signed to be removed off the title (so he had no rights to property, but obligation to the loan!) I finally just refinanced & got ex off & my DH added to mortgage & title now.

"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"

lil_teapot's picture

she's only on the mortgage. he is the deeded owner and she was deeded the other house.
we're going to refi now or I'm leaving...i can't decide which cuz I am seriously pissed!!!

WowjustWow's picture

Might as well refi. Ours closed on Wed. and we got a great rate and consolidated.

Can't hurt to look at what you guys can do.

lil_teapot's picture

She didn't like the therapist anyway...she picked him, he hated her and she hated him so there was no more therapy w/her for like 2 years now...but now that we see him, she wants to be in it...funny that...
I just am sick of FH covering all her crap up and having to discover it...I mean seriously, I am just afraid to wake up one morning and find the cops there to toss us out of our house. I can't live like this...it has to come out and come clean now and be fixed or I have to go NOW.

lil_teapot's picture

I am furious because he said "emails are private and not for me"....that was several weeks ago when I said we should have one email account we share for co-parenting issues and whatnot so we're all on the same page. But I can see it's cuz he's gettign whipped by the BM and he doesn't want me knowing about it.
I'm going to ask him about this email tonight and try not to completely lose it. My solution is for me and him to email her jointly and refute her statements and move on. If he is alright with me seeing emails and whatnot and doesn't go psycho on me, we can talk further. I have a feeling he didn't respond and didn't do anything further about it per the shrinks advice to ignore her...but we will see. I want to address this one way or another. And we will be removing any and all legal ties to her immediately.
I love you guys all so much!!!! I don't know what I would do if I didnt have y'all to vent to !!!!

melis070179's picture

Why didn't SS14 just call to tell her he's staying home sick from school? He's old enough to communicate stuff like that...your DH doesn't need to do it. As far as therapy...pffft...yeah right lady!

"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"

lil_teapot's picture

the skids communicate w/her for the most part because that's how we do things now...fh doesn't need to talk to her unless it's about important co-parenting stuff, not just cuz she wants to be all in his business.
There will be no family therapy with those 4...NONE. I am a part of the family in my house, not her. If she wants to go to therapy she can take her crazy ass!
It's soooo on today!!!