Maybe it wasnt a good idea??
So, my H is required by court to provide health insurance for his 2 children, my SS11 and SD14. SD14 is now living with her mother and ss11 is with us. Well BM is always running up insurance bills and bouncing checks for copays...leaving my husband with the bills....(since its HIS insurance)....and he just pays them. Pisses me off to no end, but what can I do. He is very proud of his OUTSTANDING credit rating and doesnt want any issues. Which is understandable but the courts also said she was RESPONSIBLE for whatever Ins did not cover...UGHHHH anyway, a couple months ago we realized he was paying WAY too much for insurance thru his job so we changed to my Jobs insurance in my name of course. So now I am covering my children D10 S4 and his kids. But I will tell you this, if she runs up 1 stinkin bill under MY name!!!!! I will NOT pay....what should I do??? she isnt even aware that we changed ins. I have the cards. I feel like if she wants to take her kids to the DR's then she should get her own ins for them!!
any advice??? thanks
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Sue, did you actually have a
Sue, did you actually have a point, or do you just want to beat down the OP?
LG, much as you don't want to, you have to tell BM about the change in insurance. Your DH is required to provide insurance. Her refusal to pay the co-pays has absolutely nothing to do with your DH's obligation.
Now, once she pulls the same crap with your insurance, you have recourse. You have the court order obligating her to pay the co-pays, you have the bills, and you can take her to court for contempt and/or take her to small-claims court to get the money back (if she again refuses to pay and you don't want to ruin YOUR credit).
If she's truly bouncing checks, you won't see a dime of your money, but that's all you can do.
If she bounces a check, why
If she bounces a check, why are you responsible. Show the CO to the billing office. You are not responsible for those. Stop that crap now.
Outstanding credit is
Outstanding credit is valuable and something to be proud of. A lot of dads are ruined for life after divorce. Paying a $20 copayment here and there to protect his credit rating is worth it in my opinion.
It's not fair that bm bounces checks and you have to pay, but sometimes is what it is. Keep record of every cent you pay so next time there's anything going on that you have to go back to court you have this.
Kind of you to add steps to your insurance coverage... One way or another dh has to cover them per the co so might as well be cheaper for your household.
Be honest. Have dh tellher
Be honest. Have dh tellher insurance is under your name with your work. If she bounces a check or doesn't pay he WILL take her to court because your credit nor his will be ruined. The FIRST time she doesn't pay you take her to court immediately. Do NOT play games with her. Take her to small claims court AND to the family law judge for contempt since she can't follow the order.