My Ex has no visitation/ no contact; but I ave made sure that my BS's grands can still see BS, I haven't blocked them and I've made the trips to see them when they want (45 min one way). Last time They saw him was right before Thanksgiving, they wanted to take him out for the afternoon and go be grandparents. At that time Nana tells me that her SD and GSD will be flying in from across the country for xmas this year. She wanted to know if I could make time for BS to be with them around xmas and I said sure.

So it's a week before xmas and nobody has contacted me about when the family will be around, what days are best... so I call her and ask about it, she's a pain to schedule anything with and I finally get it out of her that Friday after xmas will be good. My Ex will be at work all day so he won't feel put-out and she won't feel guilty so she'll enjoy her time with BS.

On that Friday, I get a text from her, one hour before I'm supposed to drop BS off. "Jr decided to take a half day, he and his GF are on their way up here, so sorry. I know with the PO he can't be near BS so can we reschedule??" I don't get nasty I agree to bringing BS to her place today, I have to break the news to BS that we aren't going. He cries, he's not happy, I'm not really happy either. Because my ex (who is effing 30) decides to change his plans she needs to blow off the 4y.o? Whatever, I know she has a severe soft spot for her "sonshine".

Today I text her to make sure she's still expecting us. She says she is, it's all good, what time was I thinking of coming up because her SD wants to do some shopping while the great aunt is at her day program. I say I'm free after 2 but can work out whatever part of the day is good for them, and let BS know we will be going up today. I just didn't know when. Shew waits until 1:45 to tell me that her Sd has decided to shop all day and won't be back until 8pm (so I know Nana isn't going cause aunt get's home at 4pm) we should come up another day, maybe on the weekend AFTER the SD and GSD go home.

Really? We picked out gifts and cards for them, because SHE said SHE wanted BS to see them, and I wasn't going to show up with gifts for everyone except them. I'm returning the gifts, because fuck it, I'm not shipping gifts across the country to people I've never even met.

And I know after the first time I shouldn't have said a word to BS this time but damnit I needed to get him in the bath and "we're going to nanas!" works a hell of a lot better than anything else.