Who buys gifts for BM on behalf on skids?
Long story short, I've been with BF for 4 years now and only the last two BM and been buying, b'day, fathers day and christmas presants on behalf of the skids to BF. (Before you ask, yes I was buying gifts from the skids to BF and actually had to return some cause BM started to get in before me, anyway so I stopped buying presants). On Christmas eve, BM asked BF where her presant is from the skids and BF laughed and said that he hasn't done that for the lsat 4 years, her come back was "well I havn't been causing you guys any trouble" WTF??? She has had no reason to cause trouble and she wants a reward, ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH, I just can't work this woman out.
So Christmas day we pick up skids after lunch and surprise, surprise no presant to BF from skids. BF and I just laughED. Oh well, I guess it's my job again!
Are BF and I being silly should We buy presants from skids to BM. The oldest SS is 13 and he has never said anything about buying his mother a gift.
Any thoughts?
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wellll it depends...
Before my ex husband married his sister in law (his little brothers xwife and my x best friend) I used to buy gifts for him from the kids.
It was never my idea to buy him gifts but if our girls mentioned it to me and wanted to then I let them... I never expected him to do so in return I did it for the kids, not for him.
If you don't want to buy gifts for the BM then don't. If the kids mention it and want to then let BF take his kids to the dollar store and pick out gifts for their mom. As the SM, I wouldn't touch that with a 10 ft pool. I really see nothing wrong with BM taking the kids out to get gifts for their dad..As long as she is doing it for the kids best interest and feelings and not because she still has a "thing" for her ex husband or negative alterior motives.
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
at that age i think hes old enough to ask
and pick out a gift himself. for the little ones, honestly i think that someone from HER side should do it...a hubby or BF if she has one, or maybe the g'rents or an aunt. just like WE do for our DHs from the skids...i wouldnt want her buying DH a gift, even from SD...im the wife and thats MY job, so why would we in turn buy for her? i dont want any cutesie "daddy" gifts from BM on behalf of SD, and i know DH doesnt either.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
We used to
when BM was single but now that she is married we think the SF should take SD to buy her BM a gift...which he does. However, we do buy something on mothers day for her, just a hanging plant---she gets one every year and its only like $10.
That is up to BM
She could give them $5 or whatever and take them to the store to pick up something for her. But absolutely no way should your DH be required to think of BM and whether she gets a gift.
The kids should be taught that gift givin is an EXCHANGE, and if they don't give, they should not get. Just my opinion! Of course it is not going over too well with my SD17.
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
The only gift I would every
The only gift I would ever give to BM is a nice big pile of sh**!!!
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
We do
BM would probably feed it to her dog if she knew!
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
For xmas this year I did get
For xmas this year I did get something for my exH from my son, because he's now 5 yrs old & wanted to get his dad something. ExH doesn't have a new wife of girlfriend, and even if he did, my son does not live near him, there would no opportunity for someone else to take him. But my DH takes my son shopping for me, not exH. And we do not, nor have we ever taken SS shopping for BM, they also do not live near us so its impossible...not that we would even if they lived near us. So I guess it depends on if there's anyone else to do it or not and if its important to the kids.
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
Don't you already give...
Enough in cs every month? Nope, I say don't waste the money..tmo
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
Not a snowballs chance in hell would I buy BioDad a gift from SS
Never have and never will.
If my SS wants to get his BioDad/half sibs/aunts/uncles/or SpermGrandParents a gift I would take him shopping and give him the money ............... if he asked. But, at 16 he never has and I don't bring it up. If he wants to call his SpermFamily he can but I don't remind him to.
In fact he has yet to call them for the holidays and SURPRISE ........... they have not called him! Dipshits that they are. I really detest these people. If it was me I would have called him several times so far for the holidays.
At least the good news is that by being the toothless morons (not that I have seen them in a decade or so and have no idea of the status of their dental health) that they are, not contacting my Skid minimizes any influence they have on him.
So, NO GIFT,NOT NOW, NOT EVER!
Just my thoughts of course.
Best regards,