Every year we have the right to block out two weeks of uninterrupted time each summer. We can take it as 1 chunk or 2 separate weeks. Every year we go to the beach with my family the week beginning with Fathers Day weekend. Every year, she finds a new way to freak out and upset the kids big time.

We leave Saturday and it's her weekend. She can technically see them from 6:00pm Friday until midnight, as we have blocked out Saturday to the following Saturday. She was notified in writing May 6th and 16th via her attorney. We have to notify her in writing 30 days in advance. She is now claiming that she was never notified and they have to be with her. The kids have mentioned this vacation many times over the past few weeks.

Knowing that she would pull some crap, DH texted her yesterday saying "Just wanted to remind you that our vacation starts this weekend". She immediately claimed she was not notified in writing. Then she starts calling/texting the kids and crying on the phone about how she just wants to see them and giving them a major guilt trip. SS14 tells her, mom this is important to me and if you screw it up I'll never forgive you. Then she tells them she has to work Friday night (lie) and won't see them at all. OK fine, no skin off my back. SD15 has to work Fri night anyway (2nd night at her first job). My personal favorite line was "this isn't about your dad, this is about you and your sister" Seriously? I think this is all about BM not the kids. If it were about them, she would listen to them and not put them through this emotional turmoil. We think the issue is settled.

Today, she calls them both saying that she wasn't notified in writing and they were coming with her no matter what. She magically no longer has to work and was planning to take them to the beach this weekend herself already. Another lie. She says she will see them tomorrow at 6.

So, the dilema. What do we do from here? The technically legally correct answer is they go from 6-12. The problem is, if she won't return them at 12, the cops won't do anything about it. Neither one of them want to go with her tomorrow because of how she's acting. According to our attorney, no judge would reprimand us for them choosing not to go since they are 14 and 15. Our legal responsbility is for them to be available to her at 6 and if they choose not to go, they don't go. But SS14 doesn't want to tell his mom that himself. He also has a horrible case of poison oak and is pretty miserable and just isn't up to dealing with her crap. I also don't want the crazy b*tch in our driveway causing a scene at 6. She has before and she will again. The cops also wouldn't force them to go with her at 6 either. But I'd rather not have the cops involved at all. I'm tired of her screwing up our vacation EVERY year.

So, what to do?