Unintentional Consequences
It is funny that in my business networking meeting yesterday the topic was "Unintentional Consequences".
Last night BM texted DH 4 times, starting with "Please have SS call me" and the last was "You will have my son contact me immediately". DH did not respond.
She texted me 2x. Also starting with "Please" and the 2nd was "Have my son call me NOW". - As much as I wanted to say something back, I ignored it.
She is freaking over not speaking with SS for roughly 36 hrs. DH has gone 6 months regularly without being able to contact him in any way for the last 5 years and is ignored by both of them every time.
Now, if SS asks to call his mom we will let him. We aren't "those" parents but if he isn't asking, we aren't doing a damn thing. He has only asked to call his girlfriend... Which DH let him send one group text last night and then took it back. We did not allow for responses or any back and forth.
So, BM, your unintentional consequence of raising your kid to be above the law, thinking that he is untouchable and refusing to co-parent and assist in facilitating a father-child relationship is: You get to go 2 weeks with no contact with your little schmoopy poo.
Turnabout is fair play B**ch!
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At this point I wouldn't let SS call the mothership even if he asked. What have you got to lose? If you want to be nice just text back " SS is fine, thanks for asking." Let her go ballistic.
It's about time she got a taste of her own damn medicine.
Fight Fire With Fire.
Turnabout is fair play.
There is a reason why they are so many cliches on the subject.
Your DH should text her back
Your DH should text her back and let her know that SS is grounded, why he is grounded, and that's why he isn't answering. Otherwise, I'm afraid you'll end up with police at your door doing a welfare check, or CPS checking up on some bogus claim of abuse. At least if DH texts her back that he's grounded, she may not call police/CPS. If she does, hopefully the police will remember SS and be thankful that at least one of his parents did something about it.
Oh she knows he is grounded.
Oh she knows he is grounded. I called her at 3am after I got back from getting him from the cops and told her I took his phone, apple watch and the burner phone that they thought they had snuck in. She was told by me that he is grounded until we decide to give it back. She didn't argue at all.
If I had to be woken up by a phone call and the cops, she damn well had to as well!
I knew you had called her,
I knew you had called her, but I didn't realize you had already told her all that.
How is SS behaving?
Oh yeah. Especially after
Oh yeah. Especially after last time that DH took his phone and BM told SS to call the cops if DH took it. I was not playing around or asking her permission. I took his stuff- don't care what she thought about it.
So far he is acting very timid. Won't make eye contact with me and everything he says is "yes ma'am" , "no ma'am".
Is it worth reminding her he's grounded or
is that just feeding the troll?
She will never respond to DH
She will never respond to DH about anything. Not medical questions, not school questions, not travel arrangements- NOTHING. So, nope. She gets to feel the frustration of no responses.
Fair enough
She should experience the sound of silence too.
If she knows he's grounded
If she knows he's grounded and he's fine, she's just so pathetically enmeshed that she can't be without her teen (teen!) son for a few days. He must have been meeting all of her emotional needs. That's so unhealthy.
It's all about control.
It's all about control. Forever. What a sad life honestly.. to be that miserable.
Yeah no way I'd answer her demanding texts.
I hope BM likes the sounds of silence
cause that would be all I would give her.