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IslandGal's picture

Been trying to put a blog up for a couple of days now.. hopefully, this one works..

SO and I made up a week ago. We had a talk and I've told him that I won't have anything to do with SS footy. I won't be going to the games because I know BM will cause drama and I refuse to be a part of that crap. He's accepted this.

Also made it clear that his Mom will not be allowed to make any decisions with SS and SO that would affect MY life. He's agreed to this.

I'm going back in with my eyes wide open and I'm prepared to jet without a moments notice if I start feeling him back slide on me. My boys understand and are ok with this. SS is happy too - we had him over the weekend and enjoyed ourselves swimming and hanging out.

Thank you all so much for supporting me during our break-up and being there to listen to me vent and moan about my situation.

I really think it took us separating for SO to realise what his life would be like without me. He now is perfectly aware that I'm in this relationship because I CHOOSE to be - not because I HAVE to be.

I will NEVER allow him to disrespect me again, ever.

It's been good so far.. we've become friends again and I am grateful for that.

Without you guys - I never would have been able to find the courage to go through this special kind of step hell that we are all experiencing - thank you!

Please be strong and stay true to yourself. I have no doubt this isn't going to be smooth sailing - I hope we have it in us to keep getting stronger.

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misSTEP's picture

You know, plenty of people will be cynical about it but I did the same thing a few years ago. Not step related but I left my DH. Moved out. I never thought he'd change and he happily surprised me. We are like newlyweds again. It's been 4 years so I think the change is permanent.

I hope that you have as good of luck as I did.

luchay's picture

Smile Happy for you, I am glad he saw the light. I hope he can keep to his word, but you both now know that if needed you are ready and willing to walk away if he doesn't treat you right.