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iamlosingit's picture

Submitted by iamlosingit on Fri, 07/20/2018 - 6:17pm

So...DH just announced today that BM has now blocked him on the house phone.  This doesn't do anybody any favors.  Despite the CO stating that a parent has to be present for drop off and pick up, BM is never there. So by blocking DH, she has eliminated all contact if there is an emergency or a complication.  I hate her.

We have 7 more years of this shyt. 

I think DH should file contemp but the CO has no instructions on means of communication.

7 more years.

Oh, and our home owners insurance is increasing $125 by September and my insurance agent hasn't gotten back to me. And our taxes went up $300, due in August...unless we want to increase our mortgage payments by $30/month.

I'm not having a good day.

If ss was mine...we wouldn't be having these problems.

I want an "us" baby gdammit and we can't. I don't want to deal with a new child with SS and BM in the picture. This isn't how I thought my life would be.

Not in a good place right now.

Second guessing all my life decisions.

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Survivingstephell's picture

Submitted by Survivingstephell on Fri, 07/20/2018 - 8:11pm

Simple solution is to NOT drop off the skid and make her chase him down. Call the cops for a report and return home.  When she finally comes to pick him up, tell her that DH will continue to follow the CO and if she doesn't like it, she can change her behavior.  

I do wonder though, if you have 7 more years of this, then skid must be around 11.  Can't he be trusted to be left alone for a short while?   If not, I get it,  my BM wouldn't be home when DH dropped off skids but the oldest one would be there to let the younger ones in.  BM would often  pass him on the road after he left them,  I'm sure with her clothes on inside out.  But who am I to say???  

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Sun, 07/22/2018 - 2:59pm

BM will not give SS a house key. Most of the time her family is home, but there have been a few times where we have had to wait at a nearby park until she just shows up. Latest she has been is an hour, no excuse given just a smug look at DH. It's so frustrating.

iamlosingit's picture

Submitted by iamlosingit on Sun, 07/22/2018 - 3:03pm

Also its not quite that simple, BM doesn't drive. So we either wait near the house until she shows up, or have to drive home then drive back over.

Survivingstephell's picture

Submitted by Survivingstephell on Sun, 07/22/2018 - 3:30pm

Unless all the driving is in the CO, she can get an Uber.  Quit making this easy on her is my point.  

iamlosingit's picture

Submitted by iamlosingit on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 11:59am

It is in the court order that he has to do all the drop-off and pick ups because the judge said it's DH fault for not living within 5 miles of BM (she doesn't have a drivers license)

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 07/23/2018 - 5:51am

File a change in circumstance. No communication and being block would be a change. Ask for reasonable communication and and a call schedule to be made and enforced. Also, request that SS not be left alone in a park for an hour or more with no phone.