Ok-reminder that these kids have been in each othes lives since they were 2. DD is now 15, ss 14.

I'm not sure how I feel about this. Typically she is a pretty mild mannered young lady and in fact I spent years drilling into her head that she MUST stand up for herself at times or people will walk all over her. She does better with it now, but is still reluctant to hurt anyone's feelings for any reason. So the venom that I am hearing about my ss is a bit alarming to me.

They go to the same school. In the same grade. Lockers right next to one another. No classes together first semester thank goodness, but they have swimming together this time around. She has been making multiple complaints over the last 10 days or so. I just am not sure what to do. She is in the same "lane" as he is in swimming class. She does not wish to be. I tried to make light of it and said something about how she could always tell the pe teacher that ever since he stole her panties she is uncomfortable being around him and I bet he'd move her into a different lane. She immediately, said, "I AM uncomfortable around him, It grosses me out".

I had asked her at teh beginning of the year if she wanted me to call the school and see about getting her locker changed. She refused-saying she liked being near her other friends. It also appears that he has been bothering her some. She said she had to dive into the pool the other day and he wouldnt move so she finally just dove in and he stuck his hand in front of her face. Another time after gym, she was changing in a single bathroom in the hallway and he started banging on the door makign all sorts of noise. She has no idea if he knew it was her in there or not-but there were others around that knew she was in there-so it makes me think he did. She will be talkign to others after class, and he will walk up and try to insert himself into the conversation. She just looks at him and refuses to respond. Yesterday, one of her friends commented on how he kept staring at her. She has complained to me on a number of occassions that he stares at her.

What do I do here? Anything? I have a really really hard time being objective. I am beginning to wonder if she doesnt have some form of PTSD from the whole panty stealing thing and was sort of doing ok with minimal contact (she had told me that she tries to go to her locker really quickly to avoid him)but now that they are in the same class, in bathing suits, in the same dang little lane and he is trying to engage her I am wondering if it is freaking her out. She has seemed more down lately than usual as well.

I know, quite frankly, that ss14 makes me ill knowing that he has stolen MY panties and I'm a grown woman. I cant imagine what effect it may have had on her at her age and blossoming sexuality. I am thinking about getting her into a therapist.