1. If a woman marries a man w/kids, the perception of the majority is that "she is trying to take away the kid's inheritance money..however, if a man marries a woman w/kids, the view is "he has saved this woman and is a great man to have married a woman with kids..."
Me: I think that is a old time way of thinking, I honestly don't think it's thought that much anymore.

2. If a woman doesn't get along with her husband's kids, it's because she hates them...if a man doesn't, it's because the kids are out of control and don't appreciate what he is trying to "teach" them...
Me: Agreed.

3. If a woman gets sick of the skids treating dad like garbage, she is told to mind her own business and stop trying to interfere in the dad/kid relationship...if a man gets sick of the kids treating the mom like garbage, he is looked as "protecting" his wife from abusive, ungrateful kids.
Me: agreed.

4. If a woman's husband has no relationship w/his kids, it's because the woman drove the dad away from the kids...if a woman has no relationship w/her own kids (sdad's skids), it's because they are ungrateful kids.
Me: I don't think this is true. No matter what the SM has to say, those kids are his kids and he should NEVER chose to not have a relationship with them, IMO.

5. If a man disciplines his wive's kids, he's trying to help the kids w/discipline...if a woman does the same to the husband's kids, she is abusive and is trying to be "mom"
Me: Semi Agree.

6. If skids call their sdad "dad", it's because he's so loved by them and he's so great...if a dad's kids call his wife mom, "she should not be called mom because they HAVE a mother.
Me: neither SM or SF should be called mom or dad, if the parent is a constant in their life. My son sees his father once or so a year, that's his dad. No one else will be his dad. My husband is dad by all accounts, neither of us would expect my DS to call him dad though.

7. If an ex-husband yells at the ex-wife, HE is abusive and the new husband WILL put a stop to it and be called a hero...if an ex-wife yells at the ex-husband, and the new wife attempts to stop the abuse, "she is interfering in the parent's business" and she has no right to interfere in the ex-wife/ex-husband relationship...
Me: Yep, agreed. But I have to add........if a sane BM yells at the XH for being a PITA, and just a plain bad father, she's a peice of shit....that mentality needs to change. Some men are just bad dads. Some mom's are JUST trying to protect their kids.

8. If a woman cheats on her husband and dumps him, she is usually excused by "he was abusive to me, didn't give me love, blah, blah..." If a man cheats on a wife and dumps him, he is seen as "an ahole, who just wanted a trophy wife"
Me: yeah, Agreed. LMAO! I'm so the trophy wife.

From what I've read on here over the last few months a majority of it is a false assumption in terms of that's what's expected but it rarely turns out to be the case regarding SMs but they are made far too regularly.

So true!