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Submitted by Frustrated and ... on Fri, 12/19/2014 - 10:44am

If I hear the phrase "Oh wow" one more time, I am going to loose it!! It's SD16 condescending way of saying..."really, that's stupid". They way it comes out of her mouth I just want to turn around and say, yes, this is they way we do things in this house and no they are not the same as your BM's house so get over it. SD16 asked last night if we do presents on Christmas Eve night or Christmas morning...I nicely said Christmas morning because Santa doesn't come until after midnight and he has to deliver presents...because the boys are young enough they still believe.

How do you disengage when you have physical custody?

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Submitted by Frustrated and ... on Fri, 12/19/2014 - 8:58am

I'm new to step talk and I see a lot about the SM disengaging, which I used to be able to do when the skids lived with their BM, but now that we have full physical custody (awarded emergently by the courts in April) and they live under our roof full time how do I do this? How do I raise our boys one way and let him handle the girls another? Granted they are teenagers and our boys are 4 and 8, but I can't stand it! I expect certain attitudes and actions from our boys how do I explain to them that I can't make their sisters (as they are half-sisters) do the same?